Kindergarten Bully --what can /should I do?

[GoCUBS1]

Originally Posted by EvilCookie

I'm amazed and kind of sad at how many people are victim-blaming here and discussing physical fighting strategies -for kindergarteners!!

What's wrong with you people?? At 6 years old this should be handled by the school and the parents - the bully's parents need to be involved, why is there no mention of them?? Why is the bully not being given consequences, or at least told that his behaviour is unacceptable?
If we're advocating tackling and punching at 6, what are they gonna be doing by 15?? Shooting and stabbing each other??

And you wonder how gang and other violence problems originate. SMH.

Agree that the parents need to speak to the teacher who needs to speak to the 6 year old "bully" as well as educate her class on how to respectfully and safely treat each other on the playground. Kind behaviors should be rewarded, inappropriate behaviours consistently disciplined. The teacher/aides also need to closely monitor the recess. Parents should be notified of inappropriate behavior.

As a parent of non-bullied boys, IMO one can help teach them how to be confident, stand-up for themselves and use their words (intellect, humor, assertiveness) so they are not easily perceived as a potential "victim."

There is also a fair amount of natural roughhousing that goes along with 6 y.o. boys, especially athletic ones - which is why play should be closely monitored at recess.

My son lost 2 teeth at recess at this age, while being tackled by 3 boys. When I picked him up from the school nurse, he smiled at me with bloodied grin and missing teeth and proudly proclaimed he had made a touchdown while loosing his teeth! The 3 boys who tackled him are still his best friends, at 15 y.o. They all spent hours searching the field for his missing teeth, hoping the dentist could "glue them back in." They are all now honor students and on the football team. I don't think the 6 y.o bullies are necessarily on the path to ganghood.

[Teddy52]

I stand corrected...........suspended many times
..................................expelled once

[Teddy52]

being assertive and self confidant may work many times.

Not so much if the bully is much bigger stronger physically and seeks out smaller students.

[EvilCookie]

Originally Posted by GoCUBS1

Agree that the parents need to speak to the teacher who needs to speak to the 6 year old "bully" as well as educate her class on how to respectfully and safely treat each other on the playground. Kind behaviors should be rewarded, inappropriate behaviours consistently disciplined. The teacher/aides also need to closely monitor the recess. Parents should be notified of inappropriate behavior.

As a parent of non-bullied boys, IMO one can help teach them how to be confident, stand-up for themselves and use their words (intellect, humor, assertiveness) so they are not easily perceived as a potential "victim."

There is also a fair amount of natural roughhousing that goes along with 6 y.o. boys, especially athletic ones - which is why play should be closely monitored at recess.

My son lost 2 teeth at recess at this age, while being tackled by 3 boys. When I picked him up from the school nurse, he smiled at me with bloodied grin and missing teeth and proudly proclaimed he had made a touchdown while loosing his teeth! The 3 boys who tackled him are still his best friends, at 15 y.o. They all spent hours searching the field for his missing teeth, hoping the dentist could "glue them back in." They are all now honor students and on the football team. I don't think the 6 y.o bullies are necessarily on the path to ganghood.

There's a difference between roughhousing between friends, which is what you're describing, and what some posters here are suggesting which is teaching a 6 yo to solve problems through physical violence without involving adults. If that's what you start off with at that age already, it becomes a very slippery slope as they get older...