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Why do curvy and overweight women get a monopoly on the "real" women label. What makes a curvy woman a "real" woman, but a thin woman not a real woman? I don't understand it.
This is overweight women's way of gaining social acceptance for being overweight. They convince themselves that a "real woman" has meat on her bones. But what all men like are different. Curvy and obese are not the same thing. Curvy is a pacification for the word fat.
It's also jealousy of thin women. Overweight women can be downright hostile toward thin women. I used to get harassed at work by fat women for being thin.
For some reason, it seems really hard for people to state a preference without throwing the opposite of their preference under the bus.
It's like people expect it, it's the norm. You have to say something negative these days about something else to achieve validation. Or if you really like something you have to also like what other people do in order for them to be "friends" with you. People can't even take compliments any more without complaining. I'm not even picking on women because you guys get hammered all day long over body images but you rarely have a person get handed a compliment without them saying something bad about it in modesty or trashing something else when they talk about something they like. I used to do it without even thinking of it.
Try it sometime. If someone asks you your opinion on something you like just tell them openly and briefly (dont gush) what is you like about it and stop talking. Most of the time that will be that, it will just be an honest person wanting to know what you think. But some times it will be a person who relly just wants to tell you about something they like better and they want to throw dirt on whatever it is you like. Don't say, "oh but this dress isn't that pretty, or my hips aren't THAT shapely, or this car isn't THAT nice or my favorite show isn't THAT good." It just feeds into the negative energy. And then when they ask you about brand x, just say "I like mine better." Not in a cocky haughty way, just be real in a cordial conversational way. It will **** them off.
In short, being a happy person that is confident in their choices or looks freaks some people out to the point where they won't like you or at worst will start a fight with you over it.
This is overweight women's way of gaining social acceptance for being overweight. They convince themselves that a "real woman" has meat on her bones. But what all men like are different. Curvy and obese are not the same thing. Curvy is a pacification for the word fat.
It's also jealousy of thin women. Overweight women can be downright hostile toward thin women. I used to get harassed at work by fat women for being thin.
What's funny to me is once about three years ago, I had my car in the shop for two weeks. I had to take the bus to work. There was this girl on the bus, who had an attractive face, but was a little too heavy for my taste. Wouldn't have mattered anyhow, since I already had/ have a gf. She starts flirting with me alot. I'm kind back, just because I can't see being mean to anyone for no reason. I could tell she liked me. Then one day, her sister was with her. Her sister was her twin. Cute face, but thinner (much more my prefference). I was like, wow, I didn't know that you had a sister. She could see that I noticed the difference. We were talking about teeth and how we couldn't understand how "some" people could just let theirs go. We all had very nice teeth. Then I mentioned my surprise that she had a "twin" sister. She said, "yup, she's my twin, we look the same, but I am a little bit healthier!"
I couldn't help but laugh in my head. If fatter eguals healthier, then I am glad that my gf is unhealthy! Don't know who she was kidding.
Last edited by supermanpansy; 04-02-2013 at 11:04 AM..
What's funny to me is once about three years ago, I had my car in the shop for two weeks. I had to take the bus to work. There was this girl on the bus, who had an attractive face, but was a little too heavy for my taste. Wouldn't have mattered anyhow, since I already had/ have a gf. She starts flirting with me alot. I'm kind back, just because I can't see being mean to anyone for no reason. I could tell she liked me. Then one day, her sister was with her. Her sister was her twin. Cute face, but thinner (much more my prefference). I was like, wow, I didn't know that you had a sister. She could see that I noticed the difference. We were talking about teeth and how we couldn't understand how "some" people could just let theirs go. We all had very nice teeth. Then I mentioned my surprise that she had a "twin" sister. She said, "yup, she's my twin, we look the same, but I am a little bit healthier!"
I couldn't help but laugh in my head. If fatter eguals healthier, then I am glad that my gf is unhealthy! Don't know who she was kidding.
Maybe she was making a joke. Women can do that, ya know.
Or, maybe she really was healthier. I was very, very thin growing up and had a friend who was quite a bit heavier than I was...she was healthy, I was not. But, by just looking at us I'm sure people assumed I was the 'healthy' one even though I was in the hospital constantly for my medical issues. Kind of like when people tell cancer patients that they 'look great!' after losing weight due to chemo. Yes, I've seen that happen on multiple occasions... according to many people, thin=healthy.
Why do curvy and overweight women get a monopoly on the "real" women label. What makes a curvy woman a "real" woman, but a thin woman not a real woman? I don't understand it.
I don't think I understand it either... I guess the "lactating" look is in now...
It's not always jealousy, people tend to prefer bodies that look like their own. It is good for the ego
I am guilty of putting down thin girls. One time I was having lunch with this thinner girl who was saying she needed to lose weight (she was like 20 pounds lighter than me), all this girl talked about was her beauty and she wansn't all that. Thin but her face was average. She claimed she was asked out EVERY time she went to buy her lunch according to her. i don't know what her purpose was? prove she looked better than me? That day I had it with her stupidity and I told her these kind words:
"I wouldn't want to be as thin as you are".
She stopped talking to me like for 6 months.
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