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As a 75-yo man who has been married to the same woman for 48 years, I submit to you that nobody needs to wear a ring to know they are married. We have both had some close calls when injury (either to finger or ring) could have been a disaster. So the wife has my ring in her jewelry box, and we both know where it is. I wear it once in awhile. I have nothing to prove.
She has a problem with swelling hands and fingers, and I will sometimes see her sitting ringless while peeling carrots and potatoes for supper. Her cooking says more to me about love, than wearing a piece of metal. We both know what we're all about.
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I'm not a jewelry guy, never have been. I own a Rolex and don't wear that either.
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So the wife has my ring in her jewelry box, and we both know where it is. I wear it once in awhile. I have nothing to prove.
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I'm not a jewelry guy, never have been. I own a Rolex and don't wear that either.
Tho if you think a wedding ring is about something you don’t have to prove or you don’t like wearing them, why did you buy them? AND…Cityguy, why buy a Rolex you don’t wear? IMO, that seems like a silly waste of money.
A wedding ring is a symbol of love & commitment. If you approach it like you have “nothing to prove”, IMO that’s a selfish way to go into a marriage.
My first husband wouldn't wear his ring. Not because of his job, or any safety issues...he just wouldn't wear his ring. He also wouldn't give me a Mother's Day gift because I wasn't his mother.
My current husband wears his every day, and it does my heart good to see it on his finger. He also gives me Mother's Day gifts, even though I didn't birth his child, and he's the step dad to the kids I DID birth.
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I have worn mine since 1974 when we got married, only taking it off a few times for surgeries. The same goes for my wife. Even when working on cars or welding I leave it on, but wear gloves if it might be a hazard.
I lost my husband four years ago. I took our wedding bands which are very ornate and had them flattened and soldered and made into a cuff bracelet. It’s gorgeous.
But I always have a ring on “that” finger. One of my favorites is a thin rose gold band. Thoroughly unobtrusive, easy to go in and out of pockets, I don’t have to take it off if I’m doing something.
I had somebody tell me that you know maybe it’s time to take the wedding ring off. And I was confused. So I explained that’s not my wedding ring, it’s a ring so I know which way is left.
See, I have a rather common but mild form of dyslexia, I don’t know my right from my left without really thinking about it. So my habit after the past 30 some years of wearing a wedding ring was to look which hand had the band. So I always have to have a ring on that finger now.
Neither my husband or I wear our wedding rings! Really never have!
I chose to use my departed Mom's wedding ring as my own when we married, it has three diamonds on it and it's pretty and sentimental for me, I just think it's a hassle to wear it. It's always either too tight or too loose, it's like my fingers are never the same size. And I don't like wearing them gardening or working in the barn, or when handling food, or bathing, and I think taking it off and putting it back on all the time is a good way to lose it or forget it someplace. So I put it on a chain and wore it that way for awhile, now it hangs here near my computer.
Hubby doesn't wear his either. I think we're just not the jewelry type of people!
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Tho if you think a wedding ring is about something you don’t have to prove or you don’t like wearing them, why did you buy them? AND…Cityguy, why buy a Rolex you don’t wear? IMO, that seems like a silly waste of money.
A wedding ring is a symbol of love & commitment. If you approach it like you have “nothing to prove”, IMO that’s a selfish way to go into a marriage.
Is there a marriage book I missed out on reading that says after you are married you are required to wear your ring for the rest of your life lol? If the basis of your marriage is based on a piece of jewelry, which is a material thing, then I don't know what to tell you. I know abusers that wear their wedding ring. Yes, that ring is showing their love and commitment
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Is there a marriage book I missed out on reading that says after you are married you are required to wear your ring for the rest of your life lol? If the basis of your marriage is based on a piece of jewelry, which is a material thing, then I don't know what to tell you. I know abusers that wear their wedding ring. Yes, that ring is showing their love and commitment
Ofc there isn’t a marriage book that says you are required to wear a wedding ring. That’s funny. AND who says marriage is based on a a piece of jewelry? It’s based on love & commitment. Most ppl don’t have a problem with showing their love & commitment by wearing a wedding ring tho.
But, it does seem kind of selfish for a poster to say they don’t have anything to prove when they could just tell their spouse they don’t like jewelry or talk about it. It sounds super aggressive to say that to a spouse, IMO. AND…if you don’t want to wear a wedding ring, why waste money buying one?
Tho what on earth do abusers have to do with this thread? Tell the ppl you know to get help & divorced. The last thing they should be worrying about is wedding rings ofc.
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That’s funny. AND who says marriage is based on a a piece of jewelry? It’s based on love & commitment. Most ppl don’t have a problem with showing their love & commitment by wearing a wedding ring tho. 
