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I live in a college town. PhD's are a dime a dozen. I have a Masters degree. When told I must call someone Doctor I have a simple reponse. "Happy to, Dr. ...! You may call me Master Keim."
It sounds like the "doctor" isn't all that close to the couple getting married or they would have known he was a doctor. So I'm questioning why he was invited at all.
The "doctor", his family, and social circle are making much ado about nothing. Oh me oh my, they are so offended. sigh. No class. Just get over it already.
One of my closest friends, whom I've known since college, is a medical doctor. I would NEVER call her Dr. or use that title on her personal correspondance. Nor does she use it when she sends me greeting cards, etc. About the only time I use her Dr title is when I'm teasing her about the medical profession.
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Many doctors who use the title when making a reservation do so because it generally gets them preferential treatment.
In a purely social situation, I would think it better not to announce the fact that one is a doctor so as to avoid the opportunity for someone to ask for medical advice.
I agree. If folks knew a "doctor" was in the house, the poor doc would wind up having some folks ask for medical advice. Being a medical doctor is a demanding job and many are on-call so when they are off-duty, the last thing they would want to think about is work. I am not a doctor but when folks find out about my profession, I get all sorts of request for assistance. I love what I do but when I'm off the clock, I don't want to think about work!
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I have two Masters' degrees. Can I expect to be addressed as "Master"? That may not go over well at first, particularly with some co-workers and neighbors who are of a particular race, but I'm sure once they understand how long and hard I worked to get those degrees they'll go along with it.
I agree with addressing a Dr. as such in the context of matters dealing with health issues, or in a professional setting otherwise, but for social and somewhat more casual occasions, all I can say is "How freaking pretentious!!"
I call my dentist Joe and my family doctor Sam, and they call me Bob. Neither is meant as a slight to their position or accomplishments. Honorifics are sometimes best saved for award ceremonies or tombstones.
I've been called "master" by some folks after I obtained my master's degree. It gets old after a while.
It's a shame you judge candidates that way. There are plenty of students who attend the brick and mortar universities that cheat off one another and get through college with term papers written by others and cramming for tests. A lot of what you learn in any school, be it online or in a classroom is rarely absorbed in the long run. You hone your craft in the workplace and I don't believe the degree you possess for certain career fields really makes all that much of a difference. Is it reassuring to know that your family physician graduated from Harvard Medical? Sure. But is it necessary for an Anthropologist or urban planner to have a degree from Yale?
No, but there's a big difference between wanting my urban planner to have a degree from Yale and not wanting him to have a phd from an online diploma mill. Good luck finding a legitimate online phd program.
I don't much care whether any professional has a degree from Harvard, Ohio State, or Central Michigan. But those are all legitimate schools with accreditation.
When I interview folks, I can generally determine if they cheated their way through college. One of the nice things about working in a math-heavy industry.
If you worked 80+ hours per week for 7+ years to be a doctor, you would want to be called by it too.
What is the big deal? I sense a lot of jealousy amongst people on this thead.
I am not a doctor, but I respect the work people have put into becoming one.
You wouldn't call a married woman Ms. instead of Mrs. if she prefers Mrs, would you?
The big deal is that the "Dr." is making a big deal out of not being addressed as doctor on a dang wedding invitation. What the heck does that have to do with how many years you chose to go to school? A person getting married has a huge amount of work to do, and may be addressing invitations to HUNDREDS of people! This schmoe is so caught up in his own acheivements that he feels insulted because the person getting married wasn't so tuned into the status of his degree that she or he forgot to make sure his envelope said "doctor"? This is an person who needs to spend some time brushing up on personal interaction skills now that he's out of school and has entered the real world. Geez.
Jealousy has nothing to do with it. That was a weird thing to say. Yes, the money a doctor makes is nice, but you have to look at yucky body parts and innards all the time. Not for me.
The big deal is that the "Dr." is making a big deal out of not being addressed as doctor on a dang wedding invitation. What the heck does that have to do with how many years you chose to go to school? A person getting married has a huge amount of work to do, and may be addressing invitations to HUNDREDS of people! This schmoe is so caught up in his own acheivements that he feels insulted because the person getting married wasn't so tuned into the status of his degree that she or he forgot to make sure his envelope said "doctor"? This is an person who needs to spend some time brushing up on personal interaction skills now that he's out of school and has entered the real world. Geez.
Jealousy has nothing to do with it. That was a weird thing to say. Yes, the money a doctor makes is nice, but you have to look at yucky body parts and innards all the time. Not for me.
I personally wouldn't make a big deal out of it, but I don't understand why so many people on this thread are so offended by this.
Just call him doctor, what is the big deal?
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