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Ok....I'm so worried about this. I feel so sorry for him as I never wanted to be with him again with his demons, but, I'm sick that he ended his life with a shot in the head.
Honey, right now you are in shock. Just slow your thoughts as much as possible and concentrate on the details of planning for his burial. If he had any friends or family left that you know of you might want to reach out to them. The local authorities where he died should be able to give you the info about where his body is now so that you can arrange with that facility about how to proceed.
In a few days you might want to consider consulting a lawyer that can help you with finding all his accts and closing them. Just take it one step at a time. Even though you were separated you still cared about him and will grieve for a while. God bless.
Are you sure you can legally pursue any of this since you are/were in the middle of a divorce and you live with your boyfriend in another state?
Doesn't he has siblings who may have the actual legal responsibility to do all of this?
His siblings are in no shape to help. I'm still his legal wife and his demons had taken him over and I needed to be gone I loved him once and this is very hard to know that he is now gone. I left because he abused me not because I was flippy floppy. I lived with him for 17 years and good or bad you do develop a bond and a habit.
I'm sorry for your loss, obviously you loved him at one time and he was part of your life that is gone now - As to the funeral, etc. - does there need to be one? Maybe cremation and some type of memorial service if there are family members and friends in his state?
I'm sorry for your loss, obviously you loved him at one time and he was part of your life that is gone now - As to the funeral, etc. - does there need to be one? Maybe cremation and some type of memorial service if there are family members and friends in his state?
I think this is the direction it is going. A bare bones cremation is already $3,000 or more ouch. He actually drank himself to death by mistake which makes sense. He wasn't found for days which is so sad and they funneral home charges more because he was in bad shape. He almost did that many times during our marriage... I had hoped he would get better.
There are actually different charges from different places - you may want to check around for cremation costs since this is all going to be out of your pocket apparently.
I think this is the direction it is going. A bare bones cremation is already $3,000 or more ouch. He actually drank himself to death by mistake which makes sense. He wasn't found for days which is so sad and they funneral home charges more because he was in bad shape. He almost did that many times during our marriage... I had hoped he would get better.
Unfortunately, my older sister's first husband chose to jump into a quarry. For us, that is a long time ago now.
I do hope whatever close family you have is rallying around you. I recall that I stood by my sister the entire service; I hope there is someone there for you in the same way.
I think this is the direction it is going. A bare bones cremation is already $3,000 or more ouch. He actually drank himself to death by mistake which makes sense. He wasn't found for days which is so sad and they funneral home charges more because he was in bad shape. He almost did that many times during our marriage... I had hoped he would get better.
I don't know what city the cremation will take place in, but you should be able to do better than $3,000. My mom passed away in 2012 and was cremated. We had no funeral or service of any kind (her wishes - we had a celebration of life for her a couple of weeks later)) and they picked up the body at the hospice and I picked up the ashes. It was under $1,000.
Ok....I'm so worried about this. I feel so sorry for him as I never wanted to be with him again with his demons, but, I'm sick that he ended his life with a shot in the head.
I am very sorry for your loss. I lost a brother to suicide at a young age. Take a deep breath and give yourself some time before diving in and making arrangements.
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He has no family? If he owned a home he will have life insurance.
I don't understand this statement. Home ownership does not require life insurance, with or without a mortgage.
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- As to the funeral, etc. - does there need to be one? Maybe cremation and some type of memorial service if there are family members and friends in his state?
