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Would I be able to get copies of paychecks from my bank from 5 years ago? That may be what I have to do. I know she has actually been called before (in 2010 or 2011) because I've had potential employers tell me they called her and she gave me a great reference. I have to use her as a reference because I need at least 3 non-familial child-care references, and a live-in position is a great one.
RE: paychecks - maybe. Depends on the bank. Did you claim it as employment on your tax return? That might work, too.
What about contacting someone from the agency that doesn't exist anymore?
I get that you need 3...but unless you can get ahold of her and either jog her memory or find out what's going on, listing someone else who will give you a reference instead of her who might be hurting your chances by 'not remembering' or saying the dates sound off would probably be better at this point.
RE: paychecks - maybe. Depends on the bank. Did you claim it as employment on your tax return? That might work, too.
What about contacting someone from the agency that doesn't exist anymore?
I get that you need 3...but unless you can get ahold of her and either jog her memory or find out what's going on, listing someone else who will give you a reference instead of her who might be hurting your chances by 'not remembering' or saying the dates sound off would probably be better at this point.
It was under-the-table, unfortunately. The only person who would remember me from the very small nanny agency I went through (the nanny placement agent I worked with) died of a massive heart attack early 2013
It was under-the-table, unfortunately. The only person who would remember me from the very small nanny agency I went through (the nanny placement agent I worked with) died of a massive heart attack early 2013
If it was under the table, maybe she doesn't want to get into trouble being associated with the arrangement since it is AGAINST THE LAW, after all.
I understand that it is water under the bridge now, but I always encourage people to get a written reference when they leave a job.
If you have done a good job, everyone is all giddy and slapping you on the back and hugging you and telling you how much they are going to miss you. A year later, not so much.
So, get a letter from the employer when you leave. It is invaluable tool to have when you go looking for a new position. It solves the problem opf having to back to someone who may not be available, for whatever reason, at a future date to give that reference that they 'promised.'
As an employer, nobody minds providing such a letter to employees who have been a pleasure to have on staff. In many cases the employer will provide the letter without any prompting, and that makes you feel really good deep down inside.
I have used her as a reference throughout the years since when applying for jobs. Also, as I stated, she told me to use her as a reference and that she would give me a "wonderful" (her word) one.
As a mere human, I struggle with that logic. You're clinging onto something someone said to you in passing 6 years ago.
As a mere human, I struggle with that logic. You're clinging onto something someone said to you in passing 6 years ago.
It wasn't in passing. She told me when she sat me down to tell me she had lost her job, so would have to lay me off, that I was welcome to give her as a reference. That was 5 years ago. Most employers want your employment history going back 10 years. Five years really isn't that long ago, unless you're like 12 years old lol. How do you totally forget about someone who was your nanny/housekeeper/personal assistant (because those were all my responsibilities -- not that I minded, I loved the job) for 8 months who lived in your house?!?!?!
So, thus far I have tried calling her at her house a couple times (and once left a voice message), at her work a couple times (didn't leave a message) and emailed her. Hopefully I will hear something soon.
So, thus far I have tried calling her at her house a couple times (and once left a voice message), at her work a couple times (didn't leave a message) and emailed her. Hopefully I will hear something soon.
If she still doesn't remember you maybe send a photo of you at the time she knew you. Say "remember me. I worked for you month-year through month-year while you worked at XYZ company. I took john/jane to school and was the nanny while they were at North Middle School.
If she still doesn't remember you maybe send a photo of you at the time she knew you. Say "remember me. I worked for you month-year through month-year while you worked at XYZ company. I took john/jane to school and was the nanny while they were at North Middle School.
Thanks, those are great tips! I actually forgot to add a pic of me to the email I sent her, but I did remind her in the email that during the time I worked for her she completely renovated the powder room bathroom, her daughter had her prom and 18th birthday party (which I attended), and that she even allowed my mother and siblings to visit for a few days and stay in her house! I am hoping those things will prompt her memory! Also, that my email did not go to her spam folder LOL
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