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How are you doing today? Still feeling sick? It is hard to function when sick. (((Hugs)))
Not physically as much but I do have kind of a headache.
I wish I could be reborn into someone else. I don't know why I bother trying different places to better my life especially when they start berating me for being upset and/or having challenges. Well if I'm such a burden tell me how I can cancel myself so I can be enough to be successful?
I was really stuck for a few years right before, during and after my divorce. I spent days on the couch watching tv and noodling on the internet because I couldn't summon the energy to do anything. The house was neglected (especially dishes) I kept getting laid off. It was horrible. Mostly during the winter.
I had to pull my shorts up to go to work and care for my kids, and sometimes I faked it until I made it.
We moved to the sunny south 7 years ago and life is MUCH easier without the lack of sunlight. I did add welbutrin to my prozac which IMHO made a big difference.
I also take Vitamin B complex daily, and recently added Vitamin D.
I now have a great job and am much more financially secure. My kids are turning out well, although they both struggle with anxiety and depression as well. I really wish I had been a better role model. I still really struggle some days. I am exhausted all the time and i think that is still the depression dragging me down. I'm going to be evaluated for ADD to see if the stimulant meds will help me be less scattered and therefore less paralyzed in the face of seemingly insurmountable obstacles (dirty dishes)
Well look at what popped up in this old thread!
I am on the couch, can't hardly get up to go to work most days but I do it. Once I'm there I'm okay. I also relocated (within NC) for a very good job but it didn't make me happy. I'm still me, darn it.
I had to stop taking Wellbutrin because it was causing me debilitating headaches. Now I'm on Prozac only which is not cutting it. I also had to start taking hormones for menopause. Cruel that it happens at the same time your kids no longer need you. This empty nest stuff is for the birds.....
I'm miserable. And have not the first idea about what to do to get out of it.
Except exercise I know I need more exericse. But where to find the motivation? I have one friend who forces me to get out once a week or so.
Maybe I should take a tip from Joe and get a new prosthetic leg. JK.
Not physically as much but I do have kind of a headache.
I wish I could be reborn into someone else. I don't know why I bother trying different places to better my life especially when they start berating me for being upset and/or having challenges. Well if I'm such a burden tell me how I can cancel myself so I can be enough to be successful?
You are not a burden. Those who treat you that way are wrong. Getting help for mental health is HARD. I am there. Finding someone you click with, along with the restrictions (in your providers' plan, availability, and more) makes it even harder.
Listen, you are worth this struggle. That's why you bother. I feel the same way. A warm line counselor was telling me I was worth it. But pain and frustration gets in my way and I can't hold to the knowledge. I have to keep trying. Keep going, esp. when I don't want to.
One day I called the warm line when I was so down and depressed I knew I would not be able to change my attitude even with a supportive person on the line. I admitted that at the end. She said she understood and suggested I just try to do one or two small changes. I knew I could do that.
I hope you are able to look for one good thing (or more) to feel a little happiness. Please take care of YOU.
I am on the couch, can't hardly get up to go to work most days but I do it. Once I'm there I'm okay. I also relocated (within NC) for a very good job but it didn't make me happy. I'm still me, darn it.
I had to stop taking Wellbutrin because it was causing me debilitating headaches. Now I'm on Prozac only which is not cutting it. I also had to start taking hormones for menopause. Cruel that it happens at the same time your kids no longer need you. This empty nest stuff is for the birds.....
I'm miserable. And have not the first idea about what to do to get out of it.
Except exercise I know I need more exericse. But where to find the motivation? I have one friend who forces me to get out once a week or so.
Maybe I should take a tip from Joe and get a new prosthetic leg. JK.
I'm sorry you're hurting. =( Life can be one challenge after another. Needing to do something but no idea... oh have you been reading my mind?
Try to relax. If you don't know what to do, give yourself permission to not do it. It as in the thing to get yourself unstuck. I know that need- to be unstuck! But look around, see the good things you have.
Try to be in the moment-- OH! For me that can be HARD. I didn't want the moment I was/ am in. But there are other perspectives of this moment we're in. Sure, it's my stuck moment.
But it is also the moment I enjoyed the pancakes I made this morning, in the microwave! And it is the moment of talking to one of my sisters. Etc...
On a very bad day, I had a warm line counselor remind me that I can always be kind to myself. Made a lot of sense!
Be kind to yourself. And take care!
P.S... sorry you're having difficulties with your medicine. Have you let your doctor know the hard time you're having? Don't wait until later, for an appt scheduled. Hope you find the right med to help you!
I mentioned this twice, for information about warm lines... Warmlines
An unofficial list by state location is available at Warmlines. The site notes which lines are nationally accessible and welcome calls from anywhere. Every line varies by hours, geographic coverage and training of the person answering the call.
You are not a burden. Those who treat you that way are wrong. Getting help for mental health is HARD. I am there. Finding someone you click with, along with the restrictions (in your providers' plan, availability, and more) makes it even harder.
Listen, you are worth this struggle. That's why you bother. I feel the same way. A warm line counselor was telling me I was worth it. But pain and frustration gets in my way and I can't hold to the knowledge. I have to keep trying. Keep going, esp. when I don't want to.
One day I called the warm line when I was so down and depressed I knew I would not be able to change my attitude even with a supportive person on the line. I admitted that at the end. She said she understood and suggested I just try to do one or two small changes. I knew I could do that.
I hope you are able to look for one good thing (or more) to feel a little happiness. Please take care of YOU.
It is a phone line you can call if you need someone to talk with. It is a warm line because it is for people who might be in crisis but do not need to go to the ER. You can call for any reason, even just to have someone if you need to chat with someone.
You might have seen my next post I listed a link to the warm lines across the country. Some entries are in red, indicating a caller can be from out of state.
They are staffed by volunteers and paid staff, some of whom are counselors.
It is a really good thing. I have gotten a lot of help from them.
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