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With each passing year we learn genetics play an increasing role in not just who we are but what as well. Everything from personality traits to various diseases and or tendencies to having them in some way are a factor of our gene pool.
No one is disputing adoptive parents aren't or cannot be caring, loving and so forth, but that does not automatically answer the question all children/young adults ask themselves at one time or another "who am I"?
If you are a female you'd like to know if your family history, especially on your mother's side is strong on breast cancer. Well asking your adoptive mother isn't going to do you much good because you are not related by blood.
Leave us be clear; one of the main points of adoption was to free the mother from the visible stain of her *sin*. With the infant removed the girl or woman could return to some sort resemblance of respectable life. She was told to act is if the child never existed and the adoptive parents either were instructed and or demanded "no contact" from the birth mother. The powers that be all thought this was best. Many of those running adoption services including those in religious orders also were pursuing their own agenda. *Nice* girls or respectable women didn't get themselves in a family way without a husband. Therefore best to remove the child from such surroundings to a place where it had a chance to lead a "better life"
In this modern age where two gay men can create a surrogate child with one listed as "mother", or a lesbian couple can have a child with *three* parents (mother, "father" (the other lesbian) and father (the donator of sperm), it seems pretty small beer to allow adopted children to learn their true background.
Every argument one has read against this act comes around to the same things; protecting the mother from some sort of potential shame. Well enough years have passed that she should be able to deal with that; and if she wants nothing to do with her child a simple letter from an attorney and or court order solves that problem.
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