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Everyone is thinking about sex, but that may or may not be the case.
Before she moved to a new state my daughter was very involved in a nation wide political activist group focusing on changing a law related to unfair tax & moral issues (corporations are people). The local chapter had weekly meetings and activities once a month. She was in her early/mid 20s and her closest friend in the group was a Vietnam war veteran (so you can guess that he was not a "spring chicken"). They really "clicked" both on a professional and a personal level. She really valued his expertise and experience as someone who had been a political activist for decades and he, and the other group members, valued my daughter as someone who they could mentor and also help them understand more about how to reach young people, in addition, to working very hard for that cause.
An 18 and a 35 year old may simply have a mentor/mentee (if that is a real word) relationship.
Just like a 23/26 year old woman may have a strong, but completely platonic relationship, with a man in his late 60s/early 70s.
One of my male friends is 42 and recently started "dating" (cradle robbing?) an 18 year old girl (like she JUST turned 18 and JUST graduated high school for god's sake). I find it to be disgusting!!! His own daughter is 22. What could they possibly have in common? Um NOTHING! I barely talk to him anymore because I just think it's super weird and bordering on child molestation.
I'm not sure what's worse....putting that near the same category as child molestation (yes, let's put an 18 year old having consensual sex and someone brutally molesting a 6 year old almost in the same boat) or the thought of dropping a friend from your life because of your own petty judgments.
Sounds like he's better off without you around anyway
One of my male friends is 42 and recently started "dating" (cradle robbing?) an 18 year old girl (like she JUST turned 18 and JUST graduated high school for god's sake). I find it to be disgusting!!! His own daughter is 22. What could they possibly have in common? Um NOTHING! I barely talk to him anymore because I just think it's super weird and bordering on child molestation.
They have sex in common, and that's something.
Don't be so judgy. It's not like he grabbed her and pulled her into his van.
It's not normal but bordering on child molestation? That's a bit of a stretch.
For much of history a 35 year old man in a relationship with an 18 year old girl would have been considered the norm. Men were expected to go out into the world and establish themselves in a trade of some kind before they were considered worthy of a wife and of supporting a family. If the man in question already has a wife and family however, that might be a different story.
I have known one couple for most of my life. They started dating when he was 32 and she was 18. They have been married now for 39 years.
I have a close friend in his early 60's. He married a woman that was 28 years younger than him. He was divorced and had been for some time. The girl was a friend of his daughters. (Used to be a friend, LOL) She had been stopping by his business every so often and they ended up going out a few times. She had also recently divorced. Somehow it went from a friendship to going out, to getting married all within a few years. They have been married for 8 years now.
If it works for them then what is the problem?
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