Need help, trying to figure out why a friend is ignoring me (friendship, feel)
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Believe me, a woman can sense whether you fancy them or not! Maybe she was keeping you as an option when she had the previous boyfriend but with this new boyfriend she is more committed to him.
So you just let things go without trying to contact her via pay phone or any other communication method for two years. You ignored her for two years and now you expect common courtesy from her when you didn't have the decency to let her know your phone got shut off. Try putting yourself in the position you put her in two years ago.
No common courtesy = no friendship.
You or her don't know my story on that front, and how can I be sure she even tried to text or call me? If she didn't try to initiate contact with me (I'll never know), then I didn't ignore her. Ya know, I would've prefaced this in my initial text to her, but why would I say this unless I knew that she tried contacting me before, and I ignored her, ya dig
Believe me, a woman can sense whether you fancy them or not! Maybe she was keeping you as an option when she had the previous boyfriend but with this new boyfriend she is more committed to him.
Oh of course they can, but some do need directness. And I dunno, she was pretty into her last man, although I'm not sure how I affected that (if at all), the nature of her last relationship, or her exact feelings between these two men
Ask her??? How, she obviously doesn't wanna talk to me. If she doesn't care to even respond to me initially, then she's not going to care or wanna hear anything else I have to say. I'm just looking for some type of closure here, and trying to get multiple inputs as to determine if this is on me, or her
That's the problem - you don't know what's going on in her life because of the lack of communication over the years. I must admit, if I don't hear from someone for a couple of years, I sort of assume that our friendship has come to a natural end.
Try putting yourself in the position you put her in two years ago
And I'm guessing you're expecting me to do this from a position of unbias? I would like to think I'd be doing this, but there's no way for me to know this myself. I personally would ask her what happened-- saying that I tried contacting her and I thought she might've ignored me. Or I'd be happy, or wouldn't be bothered to hear from her again. I'm honestly not sure how I'd feel how she (presumably) feels w/o at least asking...?
^Moved on from a friendship? I wasn't aware friendship came with such a restriction. And why is it so unusual to you that I wonder why, and am asking questions about it?
The fact that you're making such an issue of this is kinda weird.
You two were only friends of convenience and now it's not convenient for her.
You don't know where she is at in life. Maybe she wanted away from you then but didn't know how to break it off. Maybe she has you confused with some other guy that was harassing her. Maybe she got caught cheating and her bf is giving her another chance but that means NO male "friends".
That's the problem - you don't know what's going on in her life because of the lack of communication over the years. I must admit, if I don't hear from someone for a couple of years, I sort of assume that our friendship has come to a natural end.
This is the problem though. Of course it's unrealistic to assume one should be "happy" to hear from you again, however I'm just not understanding why not just be neutral about it, or at least ask if you felt were you being ignored, instead of doing what I bolded. Why lie and ignore? However you wanna put it, her actions are a form of hostility
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