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My story hasn't changed. I tried to present the story, without writing a novel (ironic, now), but as questions were asked & confusion was created, I've tried to go back and add more details or additional info to clarify.
I apologize if this info has come out in drips & drabs. First of all, if I included every little detail, few people would've read the whole thing. And I've done all this on my phone, between taking down Christmas decor, along care of my house, etc. I haven't been sitting at a laptop all day (or night).
A lot of my replies have been to defend myself. Some people have made wild assumptions based on what i dont know. Comments like "she brought her own food bc she knew there would be nothing there for her to eat." Really? Rhis was the first Xmas dinner hosted at our house, so not sure how she knew there wouldn't be anything to eat.
I've explained & clarified the dining room issue SO many times, do I really need to do it again? It holds 8. I knew there would be 10 total. So which is better? Leave 2 people alienated in the kitchen, or ALL sit in the kitchen, where there were enough seats, just not at one big communal table.
And where did I ever say I created drama? The whole reason I chose to "vent" on this board is bc I smiled, didn't say anything rude or tell anyone to move, I just made a comment about Taco Bell & moved my plate. No one even knew I was offended at dinner.....because I didn't say anything!!!!!! I kept my mouth shut, kept my cool & chose to vent on a discussion board to AVOID any drama in my house!!!! There was no drama at dinner; all the drama has occurred on this thread!!!
I don't use terms like "step" or "half" when it comes to kids. They are my kids and I treat them all the same. Even the adult ones.
The OP has already stated she doesn't feel this way. She sees it as his kids and her kids. Only the two year old is her and her husbands kid. I'm sure the step daughter knows she is not family to the OP, so for the OP to take her aside and try to "parent" her would probably not go over well.
Comments like "she brought her own food bc she knew there would be nothing there for her to eat."
You're the one who said this in your very first post.
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I've explained & clarified the dining room issue SO many times, do I really need to do it again? It holds 8. I knew there would be 10 total. So which is better? Leave 2 people alienated in the kitchen, or ALL sit in the kitchen, where there were enough seats, just not at one big communal table.
Either way you were alienating your step daughter and her fiance with only having room for 8 in either room.
Anyone who brings fast food for themselves at a family meal prepared by others is a monster. My daughter is a vegetarian but we'd never get her a 7 layer burrito and bring it in at Christmas dinner! She would eat everything without meat and if still hungry afterward she can eat at home. She's 16 and wouldn't dream of being this rude.
I don't think anything wrong happened and relations between relations should continue as usual/normal
It's just a funny thing that happened
Later on at another gathering when the person ain't around:
"Lol she brought Taco Bell of all things to Christmas dinner! What a trip! Anyways .. [move onto another subject]"
Anyone who brings fast food for themselves at a family meal prepared by others is a monster.
Just breathe. Breeaathe. You & the OP could use some meditation. It'll put you into a zen state of mind and stuff like this will roll off your backs. Really.
I don't think anything wrong happened and relations between relations should continue as usual/normal
It's just a funny thing that happened
Later on at another gathering when the person ain't around:
"Lol she brought Taco Bell of all things to Christmas dinner! What a trip! Anyways .. [move onto another subject]"
This is the best way to handle it. OP, now you know who your stepdaughter is. You can either accept her and come to expect this behavior, or be bowled over by it every time. Your choice!
Women and holidays...putting the ovary in overreact.
[Lol...I crack myself up.]
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