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Well isn't she just a little snit and a joy to have in your life? Chalk it up to bad manners and recognize the fact that she will probably add this kind of fun to future gatherings. Roll your eyes and move on.
Because those children no matter the age, are the spawn of her husband. There is no other way of looking at it, IMHO.
Then again, maybe that's why my marriage to a formerly single father has worked all these years, and many others don't.
Thanks for answering. I have never been a stepchild or a stepmother, so I was just asking the question as a complete outsider. It just seems to me that if my parents were divorced, and my dad remarried when I was 17 or 18, my new stepmom and I would not have much of any kind of a relationship, bad or good, unless she was either extremely wonderful or else a truly evil "stepmonster." At 17 or 18, I think I would just be concerned with getting on with my own life (college or whatever) and my dad's new wife wouldn't concern me that much at all. But, again, I am just basing that on how I think I would feel, and maybe I am not like most people!
Thanks for answering. I have never been a stepchild or a stepmother, so I was just asking the question as a complete outsider. It just seems to me that if my parents were divorced, and my dad remarried when I was 17 or 18, my new stepmom and I would not have much of any kind of a relationship, bad or good, unless she was either extremely wonderful or else a truly evil "stepmonster." At 17 or 18, I think I would just be concerned with getting on with my own life (college or whatever) and my dad's new wife wouldn't concern me that much at all. But, again, I am just basing that on how I think I would feel, and maybe I am not like most people!
And that is exactly how it happened. (See my reply above)
Worthless post but how did this get 44 pages long in one day? I feel emasculated.
Give your testes a good shake, you'll feel better.
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This reminds me of that old joke.
Two old guys were sitting on a park bench together - sharing a bag of Taco Bell. Their old dog was laying in a patch of sun at their feet, and he began to do that old licking thing that dogs love to do - laying there in the sun licking his rear end and other parts lazily and contentedly.
One of the old guys says, "That looks like it feels good. I wish I could do that."
The other old guy says, "Man, that dog would kill you."
She sat at the table with her father and grandparents, yes?
Seems to me she wasn't being rude, but rather opting to sit with those whom she was most comfortable. Why would she want to sit with your children whom she is older and never lived with? Do they even get along?
Bringing Taco bell was a bit odd, but if your husband had no issue, then this must be a learned behavior.
Honestly, it sounds like you just don't like this girl.
This post is pretty much what my thoughts are on the situation^^ As a stepdaughter, I go to family holiday dinners to see my dad and grandparents. Not stepsisters with whom I have no relationship. Thankfully, though, my stepmom and I get along great.
May have been mentioned at some point in this very long thread, but is this the house the daughter grew up in? And how long has the OP been married to the father?
I plan on making a big joke out of it as others have suggested. DH's family likes to use humor to deal with things, so I'm going to follow their lead. Next time she asks if she & fiancé can come over for dinner (this has happened more than once & of course they're always welcome), I'll tell her to bring Taco Bell for everyone. When anyone asks what we're doing for XYZ holiday, I'm gonna say "I think Bella should bring Taco Bell for everyone!" Taco Bell gift cards for birthdays, wedding presents, Etc, etc. gonna have fun with it and never let her live it down!!!
This has all turned kind of lighthearted, so I hope you're just joking about this. Doing something like that could turn into a giant snowball as it rolls down hill.
I can just see her calling her dad crying and saying something like...I just don't feel like I fit in, so I'm going to be skipping Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc. from now on. Worse yet, she could also call the grandparents and do the same with them. And then...rolling, rolling, rolling...pretty soon dad's son calls with the same news because the daughter has pulled the sympathy card with him too.
You have to ask yourself how dad, granny, and gramps will feel if the daughter and/or son pull away from family functions because of your joking. It might generate some ill feelings toward you from all three.
Can't believe how long this thread is. I'm still on page 33. So far, I've learned that I'm a rude guest because I often don't eat at holiday dinners. I don't bring in my own food, but I don't eat something just to be polite either. I've been doing it for over 30 years now so I figured my family is used to it.
This has all turned kind of lighthearted, so I hope you're just joking about this. Doing something like that could turn into a giant snowball as it rolls down hill.
I can just see her calling her dad crying and saying something like...I just don't feel like I fit in, so I'm going to be skipping Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc. from now on. Worse yet, she could also call the grandparents and do the same with them. And then...rolling, rolling, rolling...pretty soon dad's son calls with the same news because the daughter has pulled the sympathy card with him too.
You have to ask yourself how dad, granny, and gramps will feel if the daughter and/or son pull away from family functions because of your joking. It might generate some ill feelings toward you from all three.
I'm not joking. My entire husband's family is a bunch of jokesters. I might not even have to say anything....they will probably beat me to it! His parents are old, but they're a hoot.
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