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It makes no sense that you extend your hand out to that person and they respond like that.
Is that a defense mechanism or did that. It understand what work it out mean?
I would like to hear your personal stories. Have you done this and why?
The deeper meaning is the one who heard those words is looking for an explaination where there really is not one that will ever be satisfactory to them. When someone tells you they do not want to work something out believe them and honestly they owe you nothing beyond that statement.
You appear to believe that over analyzing an issue with one friendship and asking random strangers online what they think is going to give you an answer but it is not. Move on already and focus all of the time and energy on something else.
Please seek a professional who can help you get this situation worked out and get past your current obsession and please do it soon.
This. I probably speak for the majority of posters on this thread when I say we're tired of you obsessing about this. There will be other people in your life, so let go of this one. There's always someone who will reject you. Actually, there will be many someones who will reject you: bosses, friends, lovers, coworkers, possibly a spouse or two, and if you're really unlucky, your parent(s). Rejection is part of life for all of us. It sucks, but that's how it is. So accept it and move on to other things.
I actually have a lifelong friend like the op and I have to admit I avoid her at almost all costs at this point due to the over analyzing of everything the 6 hour long talks about her 7 years divorced ex husband that her behavior drove off . She and 2 other girls were life long friends and one is dead . I have great acquaintances but don't need or want any more really close friends. I'm super private.
The other living one had to cut ties with the one I am speaking of here in 1982 due to the non stop obsessing over a man who broke up with her in 1978 . She just couldnt take it ONE MORE TIME.
Recently , since I don't pick up the phone to her anymore,she texted me that her psychiatrist really thinks and is going to do some testing to see if she has Asperger's. It may not solve anything but there is finally a reason for her behavior .
Wow. How many threads do you need to start to finally get the message that this "friend" wants you to leave them alone. More threads will not get you different answers. Let it go. This friendship is done, finished, the end.
It makes no sense that you extend your hand out to that person and they respond like that.
Is that a defense mechanism or did that. It understand what work it out mean?
I would like to hear your personal stories. Have you done this and why?
This person doesn't want to be with or associate with you. Stuff like this happens. You need to accept it and move on. Everyone gets rejected at some point in their lives. There likely isn't a deep reason for this; he or she simply doesn't want to be with you any more.
This. I probably speak for the majority of posters on this thread when I say we're tired of you obsessing about this. There will be other people in your life, so let go of this one. There's always someone who will reject you. Actually, there will be many someones who will reject you: bosses, friends, lovers, coworkers, possibly a spouse or two, and if you're really unlucky, your parent(s). Rejection is part of life for all of us. It sucks, but that's how it is. So accept it and move on to other things.
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