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So you can show up for the free food and drink but can't watch your friend get married?
It's not about YOU.
Lot's of people have issues with religion and churches, but those who aren't self absorbed put them aside for their friend or family.
If her mother died would you have said "sorry can't make your mom's funeral and be there for you, I have issues with the Catholic church"....sigh.
She already told you to stay away. I don't think you will have to worry about this friend anymore anyway.
This. Her getting married is not a platform day about your opinions on the religion of the couple getting married. I think most brides would be very hurt and offended if someone proclaimed they refused to see and share in their actual wedding but were willing to show up later for a free dinner and dancing.
If someone you loved was molested by a high school coach would you refuse to attend other persons graduation because it’s at a high school. I agree with poster above this is a opportunity to reflect on your black and white thinking and to mature and be less selfish- and making everything about you or your brother.
I only set foot in churches for wedding and funerals. My presence there doesn't support the churches, just the people I'm there for. It's just a building.
I understand your feelings. But I personally would have simply told the bride that unfortunately I am unable to attend. Now you've probably lost a friend.
Why did you have to tell her the reason? You could have either said no or said that you're unavailable during the wedding but would love to be able to pay your respects at the reception.
Look at it from her POV, she's planning a wedding and then you come along with your drama. Seriously, sorry that happened but she don't care.
I only set foot in churches for wedding and funerals. My presence there doesn't support the churches, just the people I'm there for. It's just a building.
This is me. Screw the Catholic church, not your friend.
I would let her know why you reacted the way you did, apologize, and ask if you could attend. Being pissed at a bunch of holier-than-thou molesters is not a reason lose a friend.
It’s not a good friend - More of an acquaintance so it’s not really that big of a deal. And yes I would say that because I do not go to Catholic churches
Then why are you posting here? Drama? Sympathy? Sheesh. The things people post about that "are not that big of a deal".
I understand your feelings. But I personally would have simply told the bride that unfortunately I am unable to attend. Now you've probably lost a friend.
Yes, this. The OP made it all about her her her by talking about her "problems" with the Catholic Church. It's not about her.
Politely decline, giving a vague reason why you cannot attend, and send a gift if you desire, OP. Oh well, it's too late for that now.
By telling her all about your issues with the Catholic Church, it's now drama drama drama. All avoidable.
Ok thanks for all the opinions. I’m good with my decision.
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