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I didn't say it did. This really isn't about the unpleasant family members. This is about his parents.
He has made it clear that it's very important to his parents that he participate in this long-standing family tradition.
The definition of selfish is: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.
By choosing not to go, he would be showing no regard for his parents' wishes.
Like it or not, chicagoliz, that's selfish.
I think that's really ridiculous.
The OP is an adult. Burning his limited vacation time to fulfill his parents' whims is one notch below martyrdom.
It is the parents who are being selfish here. No question about it. They apparently have not considered that their son might want to do other things with his time, despite the fact that he's an adult in his 30s.
I mean, jeez, when my wife and I were first married, her domineering parents lived in the same town. They insisted that, collectively, we come to dinner every Friday night. What? Excuse me, but after a grueling week, the last thing I wanted to do is sit at the dinner table and listen to my father-in-law rant about the Democrats. Given a choice between that and a root canal without anesthesia, I'd be hard-pressed to choose one.
So finally, I started making plans for Friday night. They were chuffed at first, but they got over it.
OP, I've read some of your other posts, and they seem to have a common theme to them: Your inability, for whatever reason, to strike out on your own. As I've told you in other posts, courage is the foundation of happiness. You can either choose to continue sulking, or you can finally enjoy happiness by choosing your own path.
You live with them! How often do you think most parents see their 33 year old "kids?"
Well they don't see me much as I am often working or out and do not spend much time with them. I have been coming and going to sleep there pretty much.
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Originally Posted by Kibbiekat
How old are you? Do you still let your family make all your decisions for you?
Just this one I think, I don't let them make other decisions for me, but sometimes I will ask for their advice.
Yeah I'm paying rent, but I don't want to buy a house just yet since I may move to Toronto or Vancouver, but haven't decided which yet, which is why I haven't bought a place yet. I don't find my parents to be controlling other than the vacation part I think.
Why do you need to buy a house? Why can’t you strike out on your own and rent a place like most people do? There’s really no need to be living at home if you have solid savings and a job. I really don’t think they’d be guilting you over this trip if you were on your own because you’d have your own place and then there wouldn’t be the issue of you having to watch your brother. You wouldn’t be living in the same place.
Just this one I think, I don't let them make other decisions for me, but sometimes I will ask for their advice.
Not you, Redplum, the one who keeps saying this decision is your family's to make, not yours. I'm just wondering if he follows his own advice and lets his parents decide how he spends his vacation.
why do you need to buy a house? Why can’t you strike out on your own and rent a place like most people do? There’s really no need to be living at home if you have solid savings and a job. I really don’t think they’d be guilting you over this trip if you were on your own because you’d have your own place and then there wouldn’t be the issue of you having to watch your brother. You wouldn’t be living in the same place.
Hey Kibbles, I think you're quoting me out of context.
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