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I go to my nephews softball games, soccer games, etc. Not every one certainly. but some during the season and if they make the playoffs I feel I should go to root the kids on. Why wouldn’t aunts, cousins etc go if they live nearby and it’s a relatively close family? It’s not everyone, but lots of kids have people aside from parents there.
Because I have other interest than seeing kids playing and stumbling over the ball at a sport I don't care about
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I go to my nephews softball games, soccer games, etc. Not every one certainly. but some during the season and if they make the playoffs I feel I should go to root the kids on. Why wouldn’t aunts, cousins etc go if they live nearby and it’s a relatively close family? It’s not everyone, but lots of kids have people aside from parents there.
Because those aunts, uncles, and cousins have lives of their own. In the world off C-D land, people usually don’t have jobs that offer that much vacation time or let them off for every event their extended family has. More realistic they may have their own children they may struggle to make events for.
I go to my nephews softball games, soccer games, etc. Not every one certainly. but some during the season and if they make the playoffs I feel I should go to root the kids on. Why wouldn’t aunts, cousins etc go if they live nearby and it’s a relatively close family? It’s not everyone, but lots of kids have people aside from parents there.
Well, we have a close family. I had/have five nieces and nephews who lived in the same general area as where my family lived. By the time, that Hubby and I completed the work for our full time demanding careers (we both worked six days a week) and attended the sporting events, school events, church events and drove to and from multiple classes & practices every week for our two children there was barely time for us to sleep let alone attend events for our nieces and nephews. Plus, another nephew lived 1,000 miles away and other nieces and nephews lived 400 miles away. We really couldn't attend their events.
We did attended birthday parties, family cook-outs and other family events but certainly did not have the time, or energy, to go to softball games, soccer games, swim meets, football games, dance recitals, school programs, etc. etc. for our nieces and nephews. Heck, Hubby and I both couldn't make it to all of the events for our own children due to work and other life responsibilities.
Because those aunts, uncles, and cousins have lives of their own. In the world off C-D land, people usually don’t have jobs that offer that much vacation time or let them off for every event their extended family has. More realistic they may have their own children they may struggle to make events for.
You don’t need vacation to go to a soccer game Saturday morning. Again if you live nearby. I think you’re misunderstanding my post in any case. Someone posted expressing surprise that extended family would go to such events and I simply responded sure, why wouldn’t they? I wasn’t asking for an actual list of reasons why people choose not to. For trick-or-treat tonight, I will be going with the kids as well as their parents as well as a cousin, another aunt and the partner of that aunt and their grandfather. Believe it or not there are families that do things together. Of course this is a choice and not everyone has to do this, but to act like it’s unheard of is pretty silly.
Because people have other interests than seeing kids playing and stumbling over the ball at a sport they don't care about.
I wasn’t actually asking for reasons. It’s like if someone said “would you like a piece of chocolate cake?” And I said “sure why wouldn’t I?”I’m not really asking for a list of all the reasons someone would decline chocolate cake. Again someone asked if extended families actually do things like this and I said “sure they do, why wouldn’t they?” You’re taking a phrase too literally.
Your brother isn't the norm and shouldn't be representative of "Parents". But yes, there are extra 'proud' parents that seem to want to make themselves and kids at the center of the world.
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You don’t need vacation to go to a soccer game Saturday morning. Again if you live nearby. I think you’re misunderstanding my post in any case. Someone posted expressing surprise that extended family would go to such events and I simply responded sure, why wouldn’t they? I wasn’t asking for an actual list of reasons why people choose not to. For trick-or-treat tonight, I will be going with the kids as well as their parents as well as a cousin, another aunt and the partner of that aunt and their grandfather. Believe it or not there are families that do things together. Of course this is a choice and not everyone has to do this, but to act like it’s unheard of is pretty silly.
This is particularly uninformed. There are a lot of people who work weekends, I’m one of them. Not everyone works a 9-5 mon-fri schedule. This is a reality for a lot of uncles and aunts. Ideally they can make an event on a very occasional basis but the OP’s situation sounds like a controlling brother hellbent on essentially being parent number three and OP is not willing to accept that role.
Ugh. I was a stay at home Mom and loved it— adored my kids, but really was never very enthusiastic about going to after school stuff ... plays, concerts,etc. I would never try to guilt my sibling into attending. Why should we both suffer?
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