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Has nothing to do with women being empowered to stand up for themselves. If you know any police officers, ask them. Preditors do look for opportunities
A woman with a male presence in her life is less likely to be a target. I am a former strength athlete and I am all for girl power but I don't mess with crazy men. I have had guys from work escort me in situations in the past when my husband was not around
I believe in diligence in regards to safety not cowering in fear. Better to be shrewd than a victim.
This is far from "shrewd," though. Your suggestions just don't make sense, because even if she does call the prison, she's not going to get a direct line to this guy's cell.
Any public information officer she speaks to isn't going to find Inmate #42153 and say, "Hey Ricky. Some guy called and said you better stop sending this woman letters! She obviously has a man around. Find a better target."
All you're doing is by suggesting she "hire a man" is inadvertently enabling, for anyone reading this thread, the fallacy that a woman's complaint doesn't have enough importance on its own, even with the police.
It's the kind of minor message that, repeated over time, makes women feel like they are inherently weak.
The first was from a lunatic who was targeting someone that had lived in the vacation rental I had for awhile. It was a CRAZY letter.
The second one was from a prison/prisoner - hand written, very sane in presentation - these were two different addresses.
If I tried to send it back by writing "return to sender, no such number, no such name," my post office would call me a liar . . .
I will keep it and put it in "the file," and if another letter comes, if I can resist opening it (out of curiosity), then maybe I can return it saying "letter unaccepted" or something like that (don't know if that is a thing or not).
You do NOT need a man to make this call. You need a man sometimes if, for example, you're going to your ex-
boyfriend's apartment to get your stuff.
Mail that leaves prison is thoroughly screened, and they have "do not contact" lists for offenders.
One call from you, this man will not send you another letter. And you will have made a pre-emptive strike that leaves a paper trail if in the future you need to get a restraining order.
This is not the time to hunker down in fear. This is the time to stand up, be strong, and assert your right to not be harassed by an incarcerated man. Hunkering down in fear is a reaction that's extremely attractive to abusers.
The bolded are extremely true words. This is really good advice from this poster - proactive instead of reactive is always better.
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The two letters are not related.
The first was from a lunatic who was targeting someone that had lived in the vacation rental I had for awhile. It was a CRAZY letter.
The second one was from a prison/prisoner - hand written, very sane in presentation - these were two different addresses.
If I tried to send it back by writing "return to sender, no such number, no such name," my post office would call me a liar . . .
I will keep it and put it in "the file," and if another letter comes, if I can resist opening it (out of curiosity), then maybe I can return it saying "letter unaccepted" or something like that (don't know if that is a thing or not).
Did you happen to look the person up in the prison's online page?
What did the return address actually say? Was it printed, was it handwritten, was it stamped in any way?
That someone else here got something similar makes this sound like a scam more than an inmate looking to chat up some random stranger. Best way to stop that is to stop the letters from coming at all.
As for "return to sender", that's all you have to put. The post office isn't going to call you and argue with you about it.
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You determined that off the fact that she received a single letter from an unknown inmate?
If I wanted to scam people and I had a lot of time to write letters I'd pull up public records or buy a list from a marketing company. Go to your property tax assessor site (in most states) and type in the name of your street, find out the names and addresses of all your neighbors, it's that easy, and a lot more likely than someone got your name from someone else and is stalking you by snail mail for when they get out of prison.
And it appears to you that prison inmates can "pull up public records" or buy a list from a marketing company?
The first was from a lunatic who was targeting someone that had lived in the vacation rental I had for awhile. It was a CRAZY letter.
The second one was from a prison/prisoner - hand written, very sane in presentation - these were two different addresses.
If I tried to send it back by writing "return to sender, no such number, no such name," my post office would call me a liar . . .
I will keep it and put it in "the file," and if another letter comes, if I can resist opening it (out of curiosity), then maybe I can return it saying "letter unaccepted" or something like that (don't know if that is a thing or not).
No they won't. Just send it back return to sender. The post office isn't going to investigate.
Do not write back unless you want to be a toy-thing to a convict with a long sentence.Don't get involved in anything surreptitious. Report it to the police. Make notation of the theft of your vehicle papers at the same time. Leave the station and put it out of your mind.
Lighter Scenario - Watch "Love After Lockup" and see those train wrecks. This is a reality show about people that meet through "Meet an Inmate" dating site. The screaming, drama, lying, drug abuse, theft, return to criminal activity, drinking, lack of employment. You get worn out after a show or two just watching that.
Judging all relationships from a reality show isn't wise. My cousin met someone this way and they are doing very well.
The guy is likely a lot dirtier than he lets on, with a criminal past you don't know about. He is a guy who is getting ready to be released from a violent place filled with murderers and rapists. He want to get sweet with a female so he can move in with her. Who is going to hire this guy after he gets out? Who would let a guy like this move in with them? You are doing right by ignoring this guy.
This is far from "shrewd," though. Your suggestions just don't make sense, because even if she does call the prison, she's not going to get a direct line to this guy's cell.
Any public information officer she speaks to isn't going to find Inmate #42153 and say, "Hey Ricky. Some guy called and said you better stop sending this woman letters! She obviously has a man around. Find a better target."
All you're doing is by suggesting she "hire a man" is inadvertently enabling, for anyone reading this thread, the fallacy that a woman's complaint doesn't have enough importance on its own, even with the police.
It's the kind of minor message that, repeated over time, makes women feel like they are inherently weak.
Elvis had it right. Return to sender.
I was wanting to participate and offer constructive help. I am a three time USPF powerlifting champion, National level bodybuilding competitor and participate in half marathons. So as friends tell me I can easily kick some man's butt. So I am hardly into promoting weakness in women. Anyway, I will continue to do what I believe is worthy for safety and others are free to make their own choices.
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