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I had a prison pen pal and I enjoyed it. I read they go crazy in solitary and I wanted to help someone avoid that experience. We were roughly the same age and from the same general area, so we had a little bit in common that way. He was a good pen pal. /shrug. Some people were worried he'd come out and hurt me. Why? I just didn't get that vibe at all. I probably wouldn't do it again, but I am not sorry I did do it. I gave him some company and something to pass the time. Never asked me for anything but I signed him up for free magazines and bought him a book I felt he needed to read about Jews. He was formally in a gang that is very racist to Jews and I did't like that.
It was interesting - he said early on 'I am not a monster'. I was like ok,,,,,who thinks you are and why? He said because he was in a gang. In my head I was like well that is kind of a monster. But for whatever reason I was more fascinated than afraid or disgusted. I said did you join in prison to be safe? Nope - he joined FOR THE BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY. I was gobsmacked. But I mean people do that, so.
When he got out I donated to covering up gang tattoos. He won't even jaywalk he is so afraid of jail. He's safe to be in society.
I had a prison pen pal and I enjoyed it. I read they go crazy in solitary and I wanted to help someone avoid that experience. We were roughly the same age and from the same general area, so we had a little bit in common that way. He was a good pen pal. /shrug. Some people were worried he'd come out and hurt me. Why? I just didn't get that vibe at all. I probably wouldn't do it again, but I am not sorry I did do it. I gave him some company and something to pass the time. Never asked me for anything but I signed him up for free magazines and bought him a book I felt he needed to read about Jews. He was formally in a gang that is very racist to Jews and I did't like that.
It was interesting - he said early on 'I am not a monster'. I was like ok,,,,,who thinks you are and why? He said because he was in a gang. In my head I was like well that is kind of a monster. But for whatever reason I was more fascinated than afraid or disgusted. I said did you join in prison to be safe? Nope - he joined FOR THE BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY. I was gobsmacked. But I mean people do that, so.
When he got out I donated to covering up gang tattoos. He won't even jaywalk he is so afraid of jail. He's safe to be in society.
You initiated the letters, so that is different but if someone from a prison just sent me a letter I would just ignore it because I suspect it being a scam. They want to try and gain your trust hope to get you to do something for them. Calling the prison that's kind of a personal decision I think I would just not reply back. It would be concerning to me someone in prison has your address.
Now I just have to find a male willing to do that for me!
You don't need to find a male to send him a letter saying he's your husband. Write it, or do it on your computer and print it out yourself. He can't look at the letter and say that you're doing it.
I doubt it. I don't think they analyze these things. I'm never certain if "return to sender" letters actually do get returned to sender, or just tossed.
Over the years, I've had a few letters come back to me because the addressee couldn't be located. So yeah, they do return them.
When I worked in a dormitory mailroom in college, I was instructed that any letters with first class postage addressed to people who had moved away had to be forwarded to them if we had their new address, or returned to sender if we didn't. Any second-class mail (i.e. junk mail) in a similar situation went into the round file.
Um . . . I said I don't want to notify the prison, as the person has my home address (and is getting out).
I do think that ignoring this letter is your best bet. But if you receive another one, I think that contacting the prison would be a good idea. They should be made aware that one of their inmates is contacting you without your permission, so they can put a stop to it.
I do think that ignoring this letter is your best bet. But if you receive another one, I think that contacting the prison would be a good idea. They should be made aware that one of their inmates is contacting you without your permission, so they can put a stop to it.
I’m not sure that they can put a stop to it. If he didn’t write anything threatening to her I don’t know under what law they can tell him he can’t do it.
So I asked a colleague with some experience in this area, and she said the correctional facility has no legal authority to stop an inmate from sending mail.
If other corrections officials some here are familiar with have told an inmate to stop, that is that official's personal choice, but one that exceeds their legal authority, especially if the letter contained nothing illegal.
So again, returning the letter or better yet ignoring it is the best choice OP.
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