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Obviously, DO NOT RESPOND in any way, shape, or form !! Prisoners have all day to sit around, doing nothing, so they find creative ways to occupy their time and to get some money or other benefits. He is fishing to see if someone will bite, they meet a lot of lonely, soft hearted women this way and end up taking advantage of them.
I would contact the prison and ask how your address and name can be blocked so you do not receive any more communications.
Amen, the inmate is probably fishing for somewhere to parole to.
Ignore it. Don't do anything to call attention to yourself. The guy is most likely writing to others as well. If the guy writes again, have a male relative or acquaintance call the prison to stop the inmate from sending this unwanted mail to his wife.
Male relative?
Are we living in Islamic Caliphate?
Some people apparently think women are incapable 2nd class creatures and a are some kind of children!
OP, call the prison. You need to document this harassment and possible identity theft (record the call if your state laws allow)
I had similar thing happen to me very long time ago... (I wasn't just calling the prison - they took care of it, I also wrote to that person back and requested not to contact me again, on no uncertain terms....If that dude had a nerve to show up to my face somehow, he'd wish he were back in prison)
Male relative?
Are we living in Islamic Caliphate?
Some people apparently think women are incapable 2nd class creatures and a are some kind of children!
OP, call the prison. You need to document this harassment and possible identity theft (record the call if your state laws allow)
I had similar thing happen to me very long time ago... (I wasn't just calling the prison - they took care of it, I also wrote to that person back and requested not to contact me again, on no uncertain terms....If that dude had a nerve to show up to my face somehow, he'd wish he were back in prison)
Oh geez. Having a male call simply implies 'I am not available'. Nothing more & nothing less.
I wouldn't contact the prison. He's literally done nothing wrong. If you don't want a pen-pal; don't write back; that's all. The social deprivation while incarcerated is extreme. The masculine craves the feminine & there is an abject lack of femininity inside a male prison. He's just craving an interaction a female & if you don't want to participate you do not have to.
Believe me; you will be the LAST thing on his mind when he gets out.
I have worked in prisons. I have had family members in prison & friends in prison. I have also received unsolicited mail from inmates that I did not know who somehow saw a picture & my address from those friends & family. I simply did not answer & I have lived to tell the tale.
If he uses an unscrupulous 'fishing' method to make unsolicited contact with unknown women outside of the prison, so what if he's only in for pot and is cute? He's still an unscrupulous stranger and he has still frightened the OP by making unsolicited contact with her from prison.
Nobodysbusiness - if it was me I would find out the name of the warden of the prison then make a photocopy of the letter to keep, then put the original letter and envelope inside another envelope addressed directly to the warden. I'd enclose a letter of my own (keep a photocopy of that too) to the warden saying this inmate is a stranger, his correspondence was unsolicited and based on false information and it has alarmed me. I don't want to receive any more such correspondences from that inmate or any other inmates in his prison and am asking the warden to please ensure that my name and address are deleted from whatever kind of outside contact list the inmates have.
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Ok . . . just to stop all of this "man calling" thing - the suggestion was that a man call the prison (not the prisoner, duh!) and say something about his "wife" (so as to deter a criminal from preying on a single woman).
And? I really doubt they're also going to go to this inmate and say who called. If they say anything to him, it will probably be "stop writing to this address." Not "a very single lady with no male protection wants you to know..." vs "Some dude who sounds like a bodybuilder with a jealous anger-management issues and a large personal armory says to tell you that if you bother his little lady again, he'll break your head."
If this guy has truly been given OP's name and address, who knows what other information he's been given and may or may not precisely know her marital status and possibly more.
And it's not like knowing someone is "taken" deters some people. Did someone further upthread not say that a prison penpal was hinting about getting rid of her husband?
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This is far from "shrewd," though. Your suggestions just don't make sense, because even if she does call the prison, she's not going to get a direct line to this guy's cell.
Any public information officer she speaks to isn't going to find Inmate #42153 and say, "Hey Ricky. Some guy called and said you better stop sending this woman letters! She obviously has a man around. Find a better target."
All you're doing is by suggesting she "hire a man" is inadvertently enabling, for anyone reading this thread, the fallacy that a woman's complaint doesn't have enough importance on its own, even with the police.
It's the kind of minor message that, repeated over time, makes women feel like they are inherently weak.
Elvis had it right. Return to sender.
This. Also, this is assuming that some complete stranger is going to want to put himself "out there" by calling (as they may ask for his name and info), if we're going to assume that all of this is going to get back to the inmate.
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The two letters are not related.
The first was from a lunatic who was targeting someone that had lived in the vacation rental I had for awhile. It was a CRAZY letter.
The second one was from a prison/prisoner - hand written, very sane in presentation - these were two different addresses.
If I tried to send it back by writing "return to sender, no such number, no such name," my post office would call me a liar . . .
I will keep it and put it in "the file," and if another letter comes, if I can resist opening it (out of curiosity), then maybe I can return it saying "letter unaccepted" or something like that (don't know if that is a thing or not).
I doubt it. I don't think they analyze these things. I'm never certain if "return to sender" letters actually do get returned to sender, or just tossed.
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Oh geez. Having a male call simply implies 'I am not available'. Nothing more & nothing less.
I wouldn't contact the prison. He's literally done nothing wrong. If you don't want a pen-pal; don't write back; that's all. The social deprivation while incarcerated is extreme. The masculine craves the feminine & there is an abject lack of femininity inside a male prison. He's just craving an interaction a female & if you don't want to participate you do not have to.
Believe me; you will be the LAST thing on his mind when he gets out.
I have worked in prisons. I have had family members in prison & friends in prison. I have also received unsolicited mail from inmates that I did not know who somehow saw a picture & my address from those friends & family. I simply did not answer & I have lived to tell the tale.
I'd be more concerned that someone is passing around my contact information and encouraging inmates to write to me, and I'd want to find out who it is if possible. I don't take kindly to people handing out my personal information.
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They don’t have Internet access?
No. They may have very limited internet interaction in classes about how to find employment or housing if they're nearing getting out, but no, they don't have internet access.
When I was much, much younger - and sadder, pimply, and overweight - I once had my name & address placed in a pen pals directory. All the guys that wrote me were in prison. Desperate for any kind of male attention, I corresponded with them for awhile. Thankfully, that petered out after a year or two. By my mid 20s, I'd lost several jean sizes, the pimples, and also the desperate need to be loved. I'd never again write to a guy in prison.
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