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Either this or eventually boyfriend will get tired of her running to you and possibly kick your *****.
The BF may not even care..
Looks like a BF is an opportunist- he does not care- could be living with her for a free/ cheap place to stay in a nice neighborhood? until something better comes his way.
Men could be as good in “using” people as any woman could..
The GF might feel it. Looking to “improve” her chances with a fellow homeowner
And the OP is leading her on...
No reasonable man, homeowner, who allegedly may have an interest in another woman would subject himself to this saga and become her “call” boy
I'm single and live a few houses down from my female neighbor. She is not married but has lived with her male partner at least 10 years or more. They act like a married couple from all appearances. All the neighbors know each other for a long time now. I don't socialize with them we are just friendly neighbors. Neighbors 'talk' about other neighbors but gossipy (personal things).
About 3 years ago I noticed she was taking daily walks and I asked to join her to walk. She was enthusiastic. He was fine with it. He doesn't like to walk. So me and her started walking daily. She tells me all about her work ,life, etc. Really more details I care to know. But I'm a good listener. Anyway I stopped walking with her because I wanted to ride my bike instead of walk. And she did something that I thought was very suggestive. Unbelievable really. She wanted me to help fix a zipper in a pair of her jeans! Of course I didn't offer to do that. I acted nonchalant about it. This is now a forgotten thing. No other suggestive acts since.
She recently asked me to help with her car when it had a mechanical issue. Her partner doesn't mind, he's not as mechanical as I am. She asked me for a ride to the auto shop because her partner is at work. I'm ok with helping her. I help other neighbors all the time too with this/that.
But now she has recently started texting me more frequently. About work issues and neighbor issues. This morning a text at 8am to wish late happy birthday. And has been calling me too which she never did before. She recently called me on her lunch time. Again about an issue in the hoa, neighbor, or her work. She often says "don't tell anyone I told you".
But she's never contacted me this much before. When we have talked on the phone she brings up some really personal issues/struggles and I reply to them with I think helpful suggestions/assurance. As a friend would. That's all I can do. But why not talk to her partner? We'll I'm sure she does.
What I want to know is what do you all think this? And about my approach I'm taking, which is not asking her to stop. It doesn't bother me. I think it will slow down.
They're probably swingers, and she wants to get you in on some action. They take their time, feel you out, gain your trust and BOOM....next thing you know they're naked in front of you.
The zipper thing should have clued you in to her lilne of thought. Her aim is to create ideal conditions to eventurally "capture" you. Helping people out is fine but you also have to be selective. You will have to stop interacting with her, period, unless you want to go along with her.
Im not sure why you're even answering her phone calls. You have voice mail. If its something you need to speak with her about, you'll know from her voice mail. Otherwise you are just feeding her addiction to you. Yes thats what it is. Going on way too long. Answer her texts and vm on a "need to know" basis. And wanting to know what vet you use is not a "need to know". "Help, someones breaking into my house" is a need to know, tho even with that she should call 911 first.
Actually, you should not answer any phone calls from her, period. Let her text you and then you decide what needs a reply. Then you're in control. And Im pretty sure there will be very few texts that need answering.
I have a feeling OP is going to come back some day after being accused of something by this neighbor. This is an obnoxious thread all around.
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