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Hmm. Hard to say if she has a crush or just really really wants attention. Either way, if you aren't interested and don't want to hurt her feelings or sour the relationship then you'll have to play the game in your own way.
How? Play the part of the disinterested hunk that she'll pine over. Give her small bits of attention here and there, but maintain an air of ambivalence and never commit to any obligations or promises of future help, appointments or conversations. Be polite, and if she gets insistent then gently remind her that you have your own affairs to look after and that you're living your life on your own terms.
Why in the world would he want to do this? He doesn't want her to "pine over" him. He says he is not interested, and your suggestion will just egg her on and then eventually hurt her feelings when he has to shut her out. Playing these kinds of BS games is what causes some people to go wacko and become stalkers, etc. It's best to just be unavailable, she'll get bored.
How? Play the part of the disinterested hunk that she'll pine over. Give her small bits of attention here and there, but maintain an air of ambivalence ...
That's exactly what he's been doing. Well, not necessarily the hunk part, but disinterested neighbor.
I'm still wondering about the fix her zipper thing. Was she wearing the pants??
Anytime a man comments to a woman complaining about her husband/BF, it is inappropriate. That should be ignored. Even my female friend who negatively comments on her husband, I leave it alone. Even when I see how horrid he is.
My concern is you already do not respond to her texts yet she continues to text. That's way too much. She's trouble. Not adultery material anyhow. Think Fatal Attraction. It only gets worse the more she is attached to you. Time to stop answering the phone so much when the caller ID indicates it's her. Slow it down. Don't give out personal info of who you have a crush on or not, that is leading her on telling her she's moved up to close friend status w/you. Keep it at a simple neighborly friendship. Good luck
Stop answering her text messages and phone calls and if you run into her and she says something about it just say you've been busy and haven't responded to anyone.
When she stops getting attention she'll move on to some other sucker.
I don't care how sophisticated people think society has become, there are general behaviors between men and women that will always remain the same. This woman clearly wants something more from you. Maybe you don't want that but you enjoy the attention which is why you answer the phone.
No woman in a committed relationship is going to seek out a male "friend" to call all the time. She is pursuing you.
Sounds like she might be unhappy with her BF and is testing the waters with you. Disengage if you feel this is happening as long as she is still with her current BF. You never know who you are dealing with.
And she did something that I thought was very suggestive. Unbelievable really. She wanted me to help fix a zipper in a pair of her jeans! Of course I didn't offer to do that. I acted nonchalant about it. This is now a forgotten thing. No other suggestive acts since.
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This 'broken zipper' thing is the key information. The woman asking you to fix her pants zipper was your invitation to get physical, or at least try to. You showed no interest, so she hasn't put herself out there again.
I think you are both getting something out of this dance.
Why did OP post so much?
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Well, not necessarily the hunk part, but disinterested neighbor.
