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to whom it may concern:
I make no apologies for expressing my opinions of the OP's parenting and/or the family. My opinions are as VALID as anybody else's opinions and I stand behind what I wrote about the OP's parenting (which I unfortunately deleted), PRIOR TO learning about the death of the OP's son, and I continue to believe in what I wrote regardless of eventual circumstances which does not alter what happened in that family's past.
Many of you have posted your ANGRY and ABUSIVE opinions about my opinions but - SO WHAT? - these are JUST OUR OPINIONS and you can take them any way you wish. Deal with it!
I feel no need to defend or explain my opinions which can change at any time!
And again, I feel very sorry for the OP's loss.
to whom it may concern:
I make no apologies for expressing my opinions of the OP's parenting and/or the family. My opinions are as VALID as anybody else's opinions and I stand behind what I wrote about the OP's parenting (which I unfortunately deleted), PRIOR TO learning about the death of the OP's son, and I continue to believe in what I wrote regardless of eventual circumstances which does not alter what happened in that family's past.
Many of you have posted your ANGRY and ABUSIVE opinions about my opinions but - SO WHAT? - these are JUST OUR OPINIONS and you can take them any way you wish. Deal with it!
I feel no need to defend or explain my opinions which can change at any time!
And again, I feel very sorry for the OP's loss.
Asking for details of the son's death (if the OP wanted us to know they would have said), and suggesting a psychic?
That's not an opinion. That is an assinine response to a painful situation.
Is someone thinking they're getting me all up in my feelings by posting mean things about me or my son?
Please. My son is dead. Nothing comes close to touching that pain.
People interpret what they hear and see through the filtres of their own experiences... their own traumas, etc. So, people who've been bad parents or who've had bad parents - throw that label upon others to deflect from their own pain or merely because they can only see the world through what has happened to them.
I am many things. I have failed miserably A LOT. My son? No. I did, of course, make human errs in parenting him - that's how life works.
But, that child was loved... further - he felt love... he knew he was loved... he felt SEEN and HEARD and KNOWN... to the depths of his being that he'd long since lost touch with.
I am an awake and aware and incredibly honest human being - i have no thing to blame myself for - regarding my son's tragic death.
There's not a more loving and caring and honest and dedicated mother than i was to my sonny.
People can project their heartache onto me and my son all they want - but it rolls right off - because - my roll with my son ---> I am good with it.
He died tragically, like no parent wants for their child - but, make no mistake - he died knowing he was worshipped as the love of my life - that i would come find him whether he went, no matter how far he strayed, or how much trouble he got in, i had his back - 100.
I got nothing but pride in how fully well i did at loving my son and having him feel it to his core - lemme tell you, if love could save lives - my boy would be right here telling y'all - My moms ain't lyin yo... that lady's been my saviour - more times than i can count. she's the real deal.
we're true soul mates - not the romanticised crap - the real deal. two souls forever connected.
I read the initial post and noticed the date and wondered what revived it. I am so sorry for your loss. We also have a son that we had to "kick out". At this point, he is still alive, but still continuing to make plenty of bad choices. We were not perfect parents, none are. We did the best that we knew how. Children become adults though and they are responsible for the decisions they make, regardless of decisions made around them.
I cannot fathom our pain. Parents aren't supposed to outlive their children.
It does sound like you are confident that he knew in the end he was loved. Allow that to ease your pain.
Thank you for your courage with the original post. It gave me hope. Thank you for your courage to provide the update. It still gives me hope.
I read the initial post and noticed the date and wondered what revived it. I am so sorry for your loss. We also have a son that we had to "kick out". At this point, he is still alive, but still continuing to make plenty of bad choices. We were not perfect parents, none are. We did the best that we knew how. Children become adults though and they are responsible for the decisions they make, regardless of decisions made around them.
I cannot fathom our pain. Parents aren't supposed to outlive their children.
It does sound like you are confident that he knew in the end he was loved. Allow that to ease your pain.
Thank you for your courage with the original post. It gave me hope. Thank you for your courage to provide the update. It still gives me hope.
cd :O)
If there's any chance at all that your child or anyone close to you is using opiates - pills (legally or street pills), needles, patches, snorting - whatever - find out if you can get NARCAN from a pharmacy - just in case.
have your kid carry one - and have him tell his friends where it is and how to use it.
it'll pull your child from the arms of death and back to you.
Sorry, OP, for your loss. The death of a child is a heavy load to bear. As you have said, he knew that he was loved. Even when you were both going through tough times, the love was there. I know that you will miss him. Take all the time that you need to grieve and allow yourself to feel whatever emotions you feel (I know when my brother died, I felt both anger and sorrow). It won't be easy but you will get through this one day at a time.
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