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I was spanked as a child but only when I really deserved it. I was never beaten to oblivion or abused in any way. My parents always sent me to my room while they calmed down and then they came to my room and told me what I was doing wrong . Then I got a spanking. As I got older the spankings decreased. I turned out just fine.
I have a five year old daughter and she gets spankings when she deserves them. I try never to give them in public. This is not the only discipline my husband and I use. Spankings are a last resort for us but they are sometimes needed.
If you choose not to spank your kids that is fine. Every child is different so your form of discipline may not work with my child.
I love my daughter very much and I want her to grow up to respect her elders and others around her.
Haven't read the whole thread but if and when I have a kid, and he throws a tantrum, I'm going to slap him into oblivion. If any person dares to call the cops on me, man or woman, they are getting slapped too. End of story.
Good. That will put you in jail. I would gladly take your abuse so that a child may be free of it.
Many of us have seen enough kids raised without discipline by parents who were afraid of hurting the child's self esteem (such an overused phrase). As a former teacher I saw loads of spoiled brats and the teachers weren't allowed to do anything, the school wasn't allowed to do anything, and the parents who COULD have done something, didn't care or didn't know enough to do anything.
Also....those of you who think it's liberals who support all this coddling of self esteem and lack of setting guidelines and boundaries, it's not true. It has little or nothing to do with our politics but with how we were brought up and what we know.
I was spanked and I'm fine. Every kid I knew was spanked and they also turned out fine. They even have SELF ESTEEM! They EARNED that self esteem. Sheesh. Some people are so clueless. There's a HUGE difference between actual out of control child abuse and simply teaching a child to behave.
Many of us have seen enough kids raised without discipline by parents who were afraid of hurting the child's self esteem (such an overused phrase). As a former teacher I saw loads of spoiled brats and the teachers weren't allowed to do anything, the school wasn't allowed to do anything, and the parents who COULD have done something, didn't care or didn't know enough to do anything.
Also....those of you who think it's liberals who support all this coddling of self esteem and lack of setting guidelines and boundaries, it's not true. It has little or nothing to do with our politics but with how we were brought up and what we know.
I was spanked and I'm fine. Every kid I knew was spanked and they also turned out fine. They even have SELF ESTEEM! They EARNED that self esteem. Sheesh. Some people are so clueless. There's a HUGE difference between actual out of control child abuse and simply teaching a child to behave.
So you want people to differentiate between actual abuse and spanking but you refuse to differentiate between lax parenting and choosing to employ other discipline methods than spanking.
So you want people to differentiate between actual abuse and spanking but you refuse to differentiate between lax parenting and choosing to employ other discipline methods than spanking.
Bit hypocritical isn't it?
I'm not sure I understand what you mean. There is child abuse. Real child abuse with physical harm inflicted by out of control parents. There is also spanking, and some people have decided that is it child abuse when it is not.
Lax parenting means lack of disciplining their kids. I don't care what kind of discipline the parents use; it's none of my business. If they are abusing their kids, it IS definitely my business and everyone else's business too.
I don't care if the parents discipline by taking away privileges, scolding, giving a stern look, spanking, etc.--whatever works. Kids actually WANT guidelines and boundaries. They want to learn how to behave. It's the parents' responsibility to teach them. Kids want to know that their parents CARE enough to discipline them, kids do not really enjoy getting away with things.
Good. That will put you in jail. I would gladly take your abuse so that a child may be free of it.
Not me. I'd kick him in the cajones. New York Style
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