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This is why I'm all for sex, but only after marriage. The consequences, in spite of very low chances, are unfathomable. I shudder to imagine being a father before the age of 35. Think of it, mid 20's year old man raising a kid. Its utterly impossible , given the low maturity they have.
Don't do this to your child. He or she will need both parents in their life. No amount of $$$ can take the place of that. Us who grew up missing one or both parents will tell you this. People like me can attest to this as well.
Please dude...Be there for the child. it's the only right thing to do. This world is often challenging enough for us as it is.
It's a myth that children can only be happy with both parents around. I would have been much happier without my abusive father around.
What about night care? What about evening care? Like I said, you don't seem to have a clear picture of how hard it is to raise a child - especially a newborn.
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It's a myth that children can only be happy with both parents around. I would have been much happier without my abusive father around.
Those aren't the only 2 options - no daddy or one who is abusive. If you think you might have issues being abusive - start therapy now.
Larry Bird has a child he doesn't the care of, and doesn't want to acknowledge, he just pays the child support and is done with it.
Don't beat the guy up. At least he is willing to pay support. Nothing says you have to claim the child. Hey some times BC effs up. The woman chose to keep the child, he is choosing not to be involved in the kid's life. Totally his right.
I can't move this to parenting because it is the exact opposite.
Pay and leave. You are selfish (like you said, you don't want to be tied down), and should have a vasectomy so this does not happen again.
I can't see how you could provide anything of value as a parent.
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This is why I'm all for sex, but only after marriage. The consequences, in spite of very low chances, are unfathomable. I shudder to imagine being a father before the age of 35. Think of it, mid 20's year old man raising a kid. Its utterly impossible, given the low maturity they have .
I'm all for sex before marriage and plenty of variety but then I would never be married. I used protection, it just failed.
It's a boy. I just never had any desire to be a father and, to be honest, my own childhood would have been better if my father had not been around.
So you think your child need to pay for your child hood?
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We did take precautions but they failed. Well, like I said I don't mind paying all the child support he needs and she can probably find another man who wishes to be a father and who will be much better to him than I ever will.
how you be so sure? There is no one can fill the place of a biological father. Money is not the everything and money can fill the empty space of a father.
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He doesn't have to grow up without a father. She's very attractive and intelligent, I'm sure she can find a man who will take the boy as his own.
honestly what is wrong with you. why did not you let her go instead of making her pregnant? Have you ever read the threads from the men here their view of single mothers?
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Like I said, I value my personal freedom, I like to come and go as I please without commitment or family responsabilities. That doesn't along with having a child. I never had a good role model in my father so I could never be good to him (not talking about the abusive nature of my father of course). I just think it's better to be honest now than to abandon him when he's old enough to remember it. It would be much worse then.
Really? you should have think of before you rely on birth control pill. I feel so sorry for the girl who is pregnant. I wonder why did not you make it clear for her before you go and release your load inside of her That you prefer stay child free. Have you ever thought about talking to a therapist? Because what you have is fear, you are afraid of your own self also be a monster like your father. But I have a good friend she is different. she took all the positive energy and become a very good mother for two daughters. But she went for counseling to take away the fear, what she had in her mind that she will be a same kind of mother some day.
What about night care? What about evening care? Like I said, you don't seem to have a clear picture of how hard it is to raise a child - especially a newborn.
Yes, I'm sure that's hard but I offered to pay for the abortion and in the end she didn't do it. I'm not using it against her but she also made a choice.
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, given the low maturity they have.
