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And you made the choice to have sex with her in the first place. Surely you understand how babies are made?
People have sex with eachother so it's not solely my fault. And I didn't have sex with her without protection or with the intention of getting her pregnant.
It's a myth that children can only be happy with both parents around. I would have been much happier without my abusive father around.
Having a crappy parent doesn't mean you'll be one.
People are being awfully harsh to you but they don't get that some people who were hurt by bad parents are so impacted by it that they vow they will never visit that level of pain on another human. I get it, you are afraid. But, you know, you don't have to be your father to be a father. There are other ways to be a father, and the mere fact that you are worried about this means you are less likely to be like him. There is help out there.
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There is also the possibility that once you see/hold that little mini-you in your arms, you'll fall in love and want to be a part of his life. Just because you had a bad father does not mean that you'll be one. You at least know what not to do - whatever your father did to you.
I would prefer not to see him/hold him. It would just be harder to everyone.
Dude, honestly grow up. You are 34 and taking flings with women in my age group . Here I am thinking you are in the 24-26 range. You know, the time when men do crazy shyt and end up in stuff like this. Honestly, you have passed that level. You are a fully grown man, and can take up responsibilities to be a parent. There is so much guidance available nowadays.
I don't put those age restrictions on myself. Who says you can't have a fling at 34?
Yes, it's easy to have empathy with a baby and you can't possibly hate a newborn.
At least allow yourself to have what could be a life-changing moment. If it doesn't happen, then walk away. But what if it does and it opens a door to a kind of love you never expected or thought you wanted?
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. Here I am thinking you are in the 24-26 range. You know, the time when men do crazy shyt and end up in stuff like this. Honestly, you have passed that level. You are a fully grown man, and can take up responsibilities to be a parent. There is so much guidance available nowadays.
than making babies and just pay off. As I feel he thinks paying off is enough.