Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Obviously I'm not saying I would abusive. But I don't think I would be a good influence on him, people who grew up in that kind of environment can't be good to a child.
Yes, they can. There is a reason I understand why you feel the way you do. I was terrified to have children. My first was an accident, an accident I vowed would never happen. Sometimes an accident turns out to be a miracle.
__________________
When I post in bold red that is moderator action and, per the TOS, can only be discussed through Direct Message.
yes, stay in the child's life. babyhood is not forever. you will be amazed at how much fun your own kid can be. there is nothing worse for a kid than to not have a parent in their lives. come over on the week ends. take them places and make sure you acknowledge them at christmas and birthdays. a few phone calls go a long way. your child can be the best thing that ever happened to you, don't shut the door on it.
I understand you didn't plan for him. But neither did he. Don't do as your father did. Treat your son with respect. Make time for him. It will come back to you ten fold and your son will benefit so much.
This is never going to be the ideal situation but I would feel a lot worse if I stayed around and ended up making him unhappy.
This is never going to be the ideal situation but I would feel a lot worse if I stayed around and ended up making him unhappy.
It sounds like you are just making excuses. You have already made up your mind but you are trying to justify your decision by trying to convince us that it's the best thing for the child - but it's not.
It sounds like you are just making excuses. You have already made up your mind but you are trying to justify your decision by trying to convince us that it's the best thing for the child - but it's not.
I haven't made my decision...I'm sure she's going through a difficult time but so am I. I've seen her today, asked how the pregnancy was going.
Another problem is having to lie about this to my mother and the rest of my family. I don't know if my mother would forgive me for keeping a grandchild a secret. Especially because she loves children.
I haven't made my decision...I'm sure she's going through a difficult time but so am I. I've seen her today, asked how the pregnancy was going.
Another problem is having to lie about this to my mother and the rest of my family. I don't know if my mother would forgive me for keeping a grandchild a secret. Especially because she loves children.
Please, whatever you do decide, do not deny your child a loving grandparent. It is a very special relationship for both.
__________________
When I post in bold red that is moderator action and, per the TOS, can only be discussed through Direct Message.
I haven't made my decision...I'm sure she's going through a difficult time but so am I. I've seen her today, asked how the pregnancy was going.
Another problem is having to lie about this to my mother and the rest of my family. I don't know if my mother would forgive me for keeping a grandchild a secret. Especially because she loves children.
Why on earth are you going to lie to your mother about this?
My mother would never accept my decision of not having contact with my son. She wouldn't stop nagging me about it.
So it would make things uncomfortable for you? Well, then that's a totally reasonable explanation of why you would spend the rest of your life lying to her and denying your child a relationship with his grandmother.
It's a myth that children can only be happy with both parents around. I would have been much happier without my abusive father around.
Yes, as I suspected you are the poster who comes here under different usernames to work out your "bad dad" pathology with stories about defenseless mothers and children.
Carry on.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
