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Co ordinate with another parent for their sons to get their hair cuts done at the same barber. Take turns dropping them off . Let the boys hang out somewhere afterwards...pizza shop or wherever teens enjoy social camaraderie(sp?).
Learn how to trim his hair. Buy a Wahl barber kit and give it a whirl
If he doesn't like to go to the barbers...schedule one to come to your home. Our area has skilled ones visit homes for the homebound or physically impaired. Can't hurt to at least consider these options.
My eldest son took pride in his appearance so I'm not versed in the challenge your enduring. I do though empathize with the challenge to follow rules ..teens seem programed to rebel . They haven't learned which hill to die on so to speak...
Try saying nothing, and see what happens. I'm surprised you left the hair up to him, and didn't just say, "I'll take you to the barber Saturday morning." But try leaving it alone and letting him get into trouble.
I've worked as a teacher in a private school with uniforms. I can almost guarantee that the teachers and administrators will remind him of tucking his shirt in, the hair, etc. Let it be.
Does he receive any type of discipline at school for the hair or multiple uniform violations? It might sound harsh, but if so, let it happen. Nagging him about his shirt and hair isn't having an effect. Maybe a school consequence would.
Stop nagging about what you can't control - the tucking in and tie straightening. The school will take care of those if it's an issue.
The haircut is a different sort of issue. Is he just going through a typical "you can't tell me what to do" phase, or is it a more deeper issue with his school that he's indicating by passive aggressive means? If it's the former, too bad for him - make the appointment and take him. The latter might indicate a talk is in order.
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Originally Posted by rrah
I've worked as a teacher in a private school with uniforms. I can almost guarantee that the teachers and administrators will remind him of tucking his shirt in, the hair, etc. Let it be.
Does he receive any type of discipline at school for the hair or multiple uniform violations? It might sound harsh, but if so, let it happen. Nagging him about his shirt and hair isn't having an effect. Maybe a school consequence would.
I thought the school consequences would suffice too. That was until shortly before graduation when we got a letter saying son wasn't eligible to graduate until all those demerits(for untucked shirts!) were paid in full. Sometimes the consequences fall right in the parent's laps.
I would refer to the student handbook before assuming anything. And then I would give my child a choice between following the current private school rules, or leaving his friends and going to a public school.
Sounds like the father of this kid is a lost cause.
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