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Advocating for things that you get to take full advantage of, but then opposing all things that you don't get to take full advantage of, but may have in the past.
I.e. Taking advantage of public schooling for your children but then voting against public education measures after your kids are out of school.
It boils down to America's infamous "I got mine" mentality. This is the epitome of selfishness IMO.
Selfish: Moving in with your daughter and son in law and asking them to buy a bigger more expensive house to accommodate you (and really playing on your daughters emotions to get what you want) then 6 months later moving out and taking your portion of the bills with you and leaving them a with a house payment that they cannot afford.
Son in law probably should have taken a hard stand on that one.
There are self centered people everywhere it's up to us to keep up boundaries to protect ourselves from harm.
Have read one too many threads about some people who THINK someone is being "selfish".
My goodness...if a woman doesn't want to DATE a guy, somehow, she's being 'selfish'. If she doesn't want to have sex, she's being 'selfish'.
if a dude doesn't give a buck to a homeless guy, that dude is being selfish.
Where does selfishness begin and end?
What SAY you?
The meaning of the word 'self-ish" is that the person is all about himself and mainly prioritizes himself over all others in every aspect of life.
A person that doesn't want to date a guy is not being selfish, she's probably being smart.
My sister's husband is selfish. He has a 63 inch big screen and it's "his" TV and she has to watch the movies she enjoys on her laptop. There is no compromise, no sharing time or picking days over who gets the big screen when. HE gets it all the time.
He invites his friends over and makes her go to the store and get food and beer for them, so he doesn't have to leave. He is selfish.
My best friend's husband will not let her drive 3 hours to my home to spend one night on a weekend to grill steaks and spend time together. He has to come or she can't go. If she goes shopping, he reports her card as being stolen. If she reads a book, he drags her from the bed by her hair to the couch because she was not paying HIM 100% of her attention. If she rolls over in her sleep, she gets slapped, if he wakes up and she's turned away from him. Now that is selfish and most definitely a NARCISSIST. Most narcissists are very selfish but selfish doesn't mean you're a narcissist. Some people are merely self centered. Whereas your thoughts are usually centered on yourself and your actions as well.
Selfishness is expecting everything to be on your terms. A person can be helping or giving, but ineffectively because they are giving what they would want for themselves not what the other person wants or needs. And there are strings.
The meaning of the word 'self-ish" is that the person is all about himself and mainly prioritizes himself over all others in every aspect of life.
A person that doesn't want to date a guy is not being selfish, she's probably being smart.
My sister's husband is selfish. He has a 63 inch big screen and it's "his" TV and she has to watch the movies she enjoys on her laptop. There is no compromise, no sharing time or picking days over who gets the big screen when. HE gets it all the time.
He invites his friends over and makes her go to the store and get food and beer for them, so he doesn't have to leave. He is selfish.
My best friend's husband will not let her drive 3 hours to my home to spend one night on a weekend to grill steaks and spend time together. He has to come or she can't go. If she goes shopping, he reports her card as being stolen. If she reads a book, he drags her from the bed by her hair to the couch because she was not paying HIM 100% of her attention. If she rolls over in her sleep, she gets slapped, if he wakes up and she's turned away from him. Now that is selfish and most definitely a NARCISSIST. Most narcissists are very selfish but selfish doesn't mean you're a narcissist. Some people are merely self centered. Whereas your thoughts are usually centered on yourself and your actions as well.
I hope someday your friend finds the strength to leave this abuser. He sounds dangerous.
Selfishness is when other people are going out of their way to do things that help others (family in need, friends, community), but you don't do the same. Especially family.
There are no clearly defined, black and white rules. Every situation is different and should be examined on its own.
I had to learn the meaning of selfishness the hard way. It cost me my first marriage. I didn’t grow up until my early 40s. As a newly divorced man, I did a lot of soul searching. I finally admitted that I was immature and selfish. I’m now remarried and I now put my wife first and me a distant second. It’s wonderful!
I had to learn the meaning of selfishness the hard way. It cost me my first marriage. I didn’t grow up until my early 40s. As a newly divorced man, I did a lot of soul searching. I finally admitted that I was immature and selfish. I’m now remarried and I now put my wife first and me a distant second. It’s wonderful!
Being selfish sucks!
Ummm... no. What you describe is not a sign of maturity. When a couple are equal partners and BOTH have consideration for the other person and the relationship as a whole, that is mature. You are actually describing a type of power game that is opposite to the one you first played, but comes with cookies. It can feel good and give endorphin rushes, but usually will fall apart over time.
Relationships are work and take regular work. Good ones improve with age.
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If she doesn't want to have sex, she's being 'selfish'. 
