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One possible solution might be for your daughter to stay at your place and let "the friends" stay in your daughter's home. That should solve all of your problems and, perhaps, teach your daughter a nice life lesson.
This^^^^^.
Let daughter be inconvenienced a little...
OP, you have every reason to be annoyed and upset, particularly with your husband and daughter. This sounds like a case of just not thinking through the consequences of having someone live in your home for weeks. Your husband was probably taken by surprise and agreed over the phone too quickly, thinking he was doing your daughter a favor.
We have learned the phrase "we'll think about it" always is appropriate when taken by surprise. Sometimes a flat-out no is necessary to protect yourself. In this case, I would think there might be issues with insurance, leasing laws, liability, damage to your home, etc. A visit with a knowledgable lawyer could cost you hundreds of dollars to accommodate these people.
Young people, like your daughter, just don't think situations like this are a "big deal". They have not seen the ramifications of a situation gone wrong, which they do all the time.
You still have time to say no, based on insurance and legal problems. It may be awkward but simply indicate issues have come to light which you will not be responsible for.
There is no way that I'd allow strangers live in my home with whatever bad habits they have. No way. If you insist on allowing this, set a time limit (e.g., two weeks).
IMO, the OP and Hubby have already said yes. They have let it go on for too long to back out. If they did not want the other family there, they needed to speak up earlier. At this point, the other family is depending on them.
The OP and her husband need to directly contact the other family and discuss the situation. They need to set limits and get them in writing and make their expectations clear. No one is taking advantage of them without their consent.
To answer your question, I would say you should not expect any communication.
From your description of the man guest, I would expect this man to take over your house & only move out if & when he is absolutely forced out legally. Imo, you have been manipulated into giving up your house to a ******. Your daughter has probably been manipulated as well. I presume they have moved in now. A good time should be underway by now by your daughter & her friends who are now conveniently her new neighbors.
Do you know if these people have sold their oddly located & difficult to sell house? Perhaps it was foreclosed on? You probably also have no idea if they’ve found another house to buy? Do the adults who now live in your house have jobs? For all you know these people could have been renting that house. And no disrespect to you but who do you think your daughter would rather have living next door? You or her friends?
This is a worst case scenario & probably not the case. But it is a real possibility. You can look on-line to see if these people’s house is “sale-pending.” If not, you have real problems. I think in Florida you can even find out the name of the owners of property on-line.
Send letters to your daughter & to her friends advising them of the exact date they need to be out of your house. Do not be swayed by any excuses, as I’m sure many will be coming. Make it clear their problems are not your problems & then don’t let it become so.
I’m sorry you have been put in this circumstance. You MUST become the bad guy. Would you rather protect & respect yourself or these people you don’t even like?
Some people are making mountains out of mole hills. These daughter's friends are houseguest, not tenants.
Write down your conditions regarding any pet damage, etc. for your daughter to give to them and then they call you. The very least they can do is have professional cleaners in after they are out and leave the frig stocked and a few bottles of wine. They are after all not making a house payment on their sold and closed house.
If they are not out by the time you arrive, you go to a hotel and they and your daughter pay.
Some people are making mountains out of mole hills. These daughter's friends are houseguest, not tenants.
Write down your conditions regarding any pet damage, etc. for your daughter to give to them and then they call you. The very least they can do is have professional cleaners in after they are out and leave the frig stocked and a few bottles of wine. They are after all not making a house payment on their sold and closed house.
If they are not out by the time you arrive, you go to a hotel and they and your daughter pay.
How are they houseguests? The person who owns the property isn't even there and they've moved in for a month.
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