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Hilarious! You think that they should have to stay in a hotel as opposed to having access to their own house? No matter who pays for this, it's a ridiculous suggestion.
Thanks for the opinion.
Do you really suppose that if the daughter's friend and/or the daughter were picking up the hotel tab they would be in the mom's house? They'd be out in a NY minute in the hotel themselves. Problem solved.
The deal should have been resolved the day the daughter asked and dad said ok. If the op has been married long enough to have a grown daughter who owns her own home, she should be able to communicate with her own husband, so half of this mess is her own fault. If he thinks it is an ok deal, let him handle it. Let the friends stay at the daughter's.
If I were stuck in that situation, I'd send dh to Florida to deal with it and come myself when daughters friends were gone and the house was in order. Any damage the daughter pays to repair or forfeits from her inheritance. Then I'd tell daughter and hubby to never obligate me or my stuff again without consultation. If they do, I'll see them on the courthouse steps. The op has been way too nice for way too long. They are both running all over her.
None of us know what the guests will do. At the minimum have a lease agreement that sets ground rules and expectations of the tenants behavior and responsibilities. That's what I'm suggesting. Because ultimately you never know and neither you or I can guarantee a happy ending.
For example what happens if the friends do not find a house and OP is coming back home and needs her place back?
They found a house; they have a closing date. They're going to be in the house about three weeks. You'd think the sky was falling here. I would have zero problem lending a house to friends of either of my daughters if they told me the people were trustworthy. It's what friends do.
But that's not what is suggested, daughter suggested moms house and dad agreed
That's not how it went down. Here's what mom said in a follow-up to her OP:
"Our daughter asked before she offered the house==as I said initially--
She didn't offer it to her friends w/o asking us
My husband said yes w/o really taking time for us to discuss it--
The insurance policy we have allows it--
We asked when we took it out if it would cover having people stay there when we were not--
Since it was a second home and was next door to our daughter's we knew it was likely that our son in law's family or others might stay there--
We just didn't envision having someone there a month
We need to contact the people who will stay there and establish ground rules"
If the Op and the follow-ups were read and comprehended there would be far fewer doomsday scenarios here.
That's not how it went down. Here's what mom said in a follow-up to her OP:
"Our daughter asked before she offered the house==as I said initially--
She didn't offer it to her friends w/o asking us
My husband said yes w/o really taking time for us to discuss it--
The insurance policy we have allows it--
We asked when we took it out if it would cover having people stay there when we were not--
Since it was a second home and was next door to our daughter's we knew it was likely that our son in law's family or others might stay there--
We just didn't envision having someone there a month
We need to contact the people who will stay there and establish ground rules"
If the Op and the follow-ups were read and comprehended there would be far fewer doomsday scenarios here.
You can do whatever you want with your house. It's not a matter of offering someone the use of your house. It's what happens during the use of that house. I'm simply bringing up what can happen. Nobody thinks bad things are gonna happen until they do. Like I said the daughter brought it up at one point and dad said ok.
I understood the posts just fine you don't need to be condescending about it.
Plenty of posts on here about friends moving in "temporarily" or " I was just helping them out" and those friends becoming nightmares. But hey everyone is free to do as they please with their properties
You can do whatever you want with your house. It's not a matter of offering someone the use of your house. It's what happens during the use of that house. I'm simply bringing up what can happen. Nobody thinks bad things are gonna happen until they do. Like I said the daughter brought it up at one point and dad said ok. I understood the posts just fine you don't need to be condescending about it.
Plenty of posts on here about friends moving in "temporarily" or " I was just helping them out" and those friends becoming nightmares. But hey everyone is free to do as they please with their properties
Not being condescending, simply correcting the "daughter suggested moms house and dad agreed" line.
In reality, daughter discussed the situation with both parents, who own the house together. Parents discussed it and Dad told the daughter it would be okay for them to stay in the house for a short while.
Do you really suppose that if the daughter's friend and/or the daughter were picking up the hotel tab they would be in the mom's house? They'd be out in a NY minute in the hotel themselves. Problem solved.
The deal should have been resolved the day the daughter asked and dad said ok. If the op has been married long enough to have a grown daughter who owns her own home, she should be able to communicate with her own husband, so half of this mess is her own fault. If he thinks it is an ok deal, let him handle it. Let the friends stay at the daughter's.
If I were stuck in that situation, I'd send dh to Florida to deal with it and come myself when daughters friends were gone and the house was in order. Any damage the daughter pays to repair or forfeits from her inheritance. Then I'd tell daughter and hubby to never obligate me or my stuff again without consultation. If they do, I'll see them on the courthouse steps. The op has been way too nice for way too long. They are both running all over her.
Just my two cents
I don't think they'd be paying for anything, let alone a hotel tab. I wouldn't let it be my problem in the first place.
As I said in a previous post, "I wouldn't worry about who is going to make the first contact. That would be ME - I would be calling them right now and saying, "Sorry, not sorry, but this is NOT going to happen. You are going to have to find another place to stay."
They found a house; they have a closing date. They're going to be in the house about three weeks. You'd think the sky was falling here. I would have zero problem lending a house to friends of either of my daughters if they told me the people were trustworthy. It's what friends do.
Closings are delayed all the time. Closings fall apart all the time. A house isn't sold until closing has occurred and the sale has been recorded with the county/town. I've worked in property management and have done many, many evictions. None went quickly nor cheaply. Each one was a royal pain in the butt!
Closings are delayed all the time. Closings fall apart all the time. A house isn't sold until closing has occurred and the sale has been recorded with the county/town. I've worked in property management and have done many, many evictions. None went quickly nor cheaply. Each one was a royal pain in the butt!
Yeah, so in that case other arrangements get made. That happens by all the parties in the matter being on the same page and having an understanding and an agreement. There is no reason to believe that among this small group of friends and family that any possible problems could not be dealt with reasonably and responsibly. The problem here is that one party, having been consulted prior to a decision being made, is now second-guessing that decision. But not as much as some commenting here.
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