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So, the lady in question would rather have an emotionally happy and healthy relationship than LV bags and a man who picks fights with her and gets tempted by other women when he travels alone. GOOD FOR HER.
Straight talk: She probably doesn't want to mooch off you--er, accept your benevolent generosity--because the "negativity" you've incurred in your relationship leads her to believe that you would hold it over her head.
Given that you "find it harder to say No Thanks" when you go away and a "chick" invites you to dinner and drinks in her room "or something," I'd say you are unstable and untrustworthy enough that she could be onto something. A man in love does not entertain thoughts of accepting invitations from other women, whether he is officially in a relationship with the woman he loves or not.
That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
? But she says she could get bigger better and more gifts from other guys..which to me sounds like he isn't buying her enough stuff, not that she doesn't want to mooch. Maybe I'm interpreting that wrong..?
But I agree that if it was real love he wouldn't be thinking about doing stuff with other girls. That makes it sound like the infatuation is wearing off and he's starting to get bored/annoyed with how much work it is to keep this girl nagging for gifts only 50% of the time...
? But she says she could get bigger better and more gifts from other guys..which to me sounds like he isn't buying her enough stuff, not that she doesn't want to mooch. Maybe I'm interpreting that wrong..?
But I agree that if it was real love he wouldn't be thinking about doing stuff with other girls. That makes it sound like the infatuation is wearing off and he's starting to get bored/annoyed with how much work it is to keep this girl nagging for gifts only 50% of the time...
Yea I wont lie, I am getting bored seeing other people doing more in their relationships with less and I have so much potential to do things with a partner that doesnt happen in this relationship.
I tried to fix the post. Didn't touch the punctuation and grammar, but hopefully it will be easier to understand, now.
Edit: nevermind, OP already went through it. =P Ignore this post.
"Anyway I just feel like I'm at a point where I love her and I want to be with her God knows, but I pretty much find it harder to say No Thanks every time I go away and chick invites me to dinner and drinks in her room or something. So I don’t want to lose her and I don’t want to cheat on her. She knows I just want to be friends for now so I can figure things out."
Translation- I would like to try out the "chicks" who invite me to dinner and drinks in their rooms or something. On the other hand, I'm not sure if I want to lose her completely and would rather not be a cheater. So I would like us to be friends so I can remain in her life should I decide the "chicks" weren't that great after all and I can be poised to re-enter her life.
Will it be OK if she checks out some roosters while you are checking out the chicks?
"Anyway I just feel like I'm at a point where I love her and I want to be with her God knows, but I pretty much find it harder to say No Thanks every time I go away and chick invites me to dinner and drinks in her room or something. So I don’t want to lose her and I don’t want to cheat on her. She knows I just want to be friends for now so I can figure things out."
Translation- I would like to try out the "chicks" who invite me to dinner and drinks in their rooms or something. On the other hand, I'm not sure if I want to lose her completely and would rather not be a cheater. So I would like us to be friends so I can remain in her life should I decide the "chicks" weren't that great after all and I can be poised to re-enter her life.
Will it be OK if she checks out some roosters while you are checking out the chicks?
Yes it would because I value having the bond that we had when we first met and was just friends than anything else at this point
I am still stuck and dont know what to do with this situation. Everyone is telling me to let her go and move on but one person made a lot of sense telling me that what everyoe else tells you should do should never matter when you love someone and you have to follow your heart cause at the end you need to say to yourself u made the right choice for yourself on your own and not took everyones advice who promised you that eventually you would be ok.
I am still stuck and dont know what to do with this situation. Everyone is telling me to let her go and move on but one person made a lot of sense telling me that what everyoe else tells you should do should never matter when you love someone and you have to follow your heart cause at the end you need to say to yourself u made the right choice for yourself on your own and not took everyones advice who promised you that eventually you would be ok.
I don't think you're in love with her and I don't think she's in love with you. You both have a lot of growing up to do and what's simply happening now is the infatuation is wearing off and the reality is setting in. Usually happens after about a year or so of dating, nothing unusual in that at all. You're finding things out about each other that you don't particularly care for and although you might yearn to go back to the beginning when you were "friends" that isn't going to happen. It doesn't work that way.
Whatever you decide to do, I'd caution you about blowing your money on $10K rings and LV bags bought directly from the factory in Italy. Such lavishness doesn't demonstrate that you're a man - just that you're foolhardy and not very good with money. Cheers and good luck.
I don't think you're in love with her and I don't think she's in love with you. You both have a lot of growing up to do and what's simply happening now is the infatuation is wearing off and the reality is setting in. Usually happens after about a year or so of dating, nothing unusual in that at all. You're finding things out about each other that you don't particularly care for and although you might yearn to go back to the beginning when you were "friends" that isn't going to happen. It doesn't work that way.
Whatever you decide to do, I'd caution you about blowing your money on $10K rings and LV bags bought directly from the factory in Italy. Such lavishness doesn't demonstrate that you're a man - just that you're foolhardy and not very good with money. Cheers and good luck.
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