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Originally Posted by JSizzle225
I would prefer not to have children raised in daycare. At least not until 2 or 3. So I'll say that I would prefer a woman not to work during those years.
If she'd rather work, then I have NO PROBLEM staying home. Just make sure the fridge is stocked with breast milk and that I can join the MOMS CLUB to take JR to play.
My ex wanted me to stay home with our kids and I agreed. I didn't want them in daycare either. But when we divorced when our youngest was 13, I was up a creek. I had to scramble to go to school and get a college education so I could support myself and the youngest because he supplied absolutely no child support. It was rough. I think it's good to stay home with the kids but have some kind of job you can do from home at least. You never know what can happen.
I don't think women have a "role" outside of certain biological necessities which are inescapable.
Men CAN'T have the babies, for all the experimentation going on today. We're simply not designed for it and I suspect those men who are part of those experiments will find some long-term effects which are pretty detrimental.
Now, before someone gets all fired up and tells me about the detriment to a woman's body, I KNOW that happens -- but there's an undeniable biological difference whether you like it or not, and that difference is that women are designed to make babies, men are not.
During this time (pregnancy) should be the strongest outward expression of a partnership. Women are hindered, encumbered; men should be seriously picking up the slack at that time.
Men are and always will be (for the foreseeable future) designed for lifting loads which women aren't, plain and simple. Yes, there are women who can lift more than I, but they're barely women and they're a rarity, an extreme exception, NOT the rule by any stretch. That being said, technology is a great equalizer.
Beyond all that, I see NO reason why men can't cook, clean and sew while women go plow the back 40 -- none at all.
I DO agree that Feminism trivialized the needs and wants of Men on the whole, but I suspect it was an inevitable backlash from the needs and wants of women having been trivialized for rather a long damn time.
Convo between me and a guy I met a few months ago ... talk about soup and pots (lol!)
Him: Marry me and let's travel.
Me: Most men think I am too independent.
Him: You probably are. Intelligent, professional women usually are.
Me: I'm not "traditional" wife material.
Him: Laughs ... Does that mean you don't cook?
Me: I like to cook.
Him: OK, then lets get started on this relationship.
Next time I'll remember to add, "but cooking together is sexier than cooking alone!!!"
To be a nurturer and be her husband's help mate, which is becoming obselete these days.
How do you do that, work and also take care of kids? It was easier for to be this type of woman in 1965, when it wasn't financially necessary for women to work. Today, I really think the man and women have to be nurturers and help mates to the whole family.
I think we're making too much of this whole topic. Each person's personal convictions and circumstances may be different at various stages of life that will dictate what the role is.
I can't speak for anybody else...but I would want my woman's role to be my best friend. In the 21st century, luckily everybody gets to make their own rules.
My ex wanted me to stay home with our kids and I agreed. I didn't want them in daycare either. But when we divorced when our youngest was 13, I was up a creek. I had to scramble to go to school and get a college education so I could support myself and the youngest because he supplied absolutely no child support. It was rough. I think it's good to stay home with the kids but have some kind of job you can do from home at least. You never know what can happen.
This is exactly why my uncle wouldnt give his blessing for my cousin to marry until she finished nursing school. "Hope for the best but prepare for the worst."
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