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This is exactly why my uncle wouldnt give his blessing for my cousin to marry until she finished nursing school. "Hope for the best but prepare for the worst."
My dad insisted that I be independent as well.
A man knows other men and gives advice to the women in his life accordingly.
I'm happy to be the breadwinner, I need someone who can take care of the house and cook.
Why not get a maid twice a week and cook dinner with your wife?
I'm all for helping my partner achieve what he wants in life, but we compromise. Unless you're in an extremely compatible relationship, we all don't get everything we want all the time.
I've never known what it's like to be financially cared for by a man. Well, at least since my childhood. I've always thought both parties working and contributing to the bottom line was just an economic reality these days. I have a hard time imagining what it would be like to care for the home and kids full time.
I guess each couple has to find what works for them. Yes, men have been forced into more womanly roles but women are doing more manly duties as well. I will admit it's tough. I have to be able to change the oil and wear stilettos. Perhaps it was easier when everyone knew what was expected of them.
My mom's generation of women was very interesting to me. Most of mom's siblings never worked outside the home and my mom was the only one who learned to drive. My aunts had babies and ran their homes. My mom had 2 kids, a career, and a home to run. My father wasn't good for anything BUT his manly duties and that meant my mom worked harder than she should have. I can remember my parents arguing about mom's working and dad insisting she didn't HAVE to work. He would have preferred she stayed home.
Looking back, I don't think any of these families were really happy.
I'm a woman, and my role is.... well... I haven't quite figured it out yet. I doubt I'll be the 'doting wife and mother', nor will I be wholly career driven. I think I'll be something in between.
Every woman's role is different, but I will ALWAYS be able to support myself and will not lay my life in the hands of another. After all, when it really comes down to it, you're the only one you truly have to depend on.
Yes, men have been forced into more womanly roles but women are doing more manly duties as well.
I don't think there are "womanly roles" and "manly duties" anymore. There's work that needs to get done to manage the home, family, and finances, and however people decide to divide that work up is up to them.
The thing is that nowadays it seems people cherry pick the gender roles that benefit them and not those that expect them to give/contribute to the relationship.
The thing is that nowadays it seems people cherry pick the gender roles that benefit them and not those that expect them to give/contribute to the relationship.
Very interesting point. I hadn't thought of it that way but I see what you're saying.
The thing is that nowadays it seems people cherry pick the gender roles that benefit them and not those that expect them to give/contribute to the relationship.
The thread is about women's roles, not your distaste for the fact women are ALLOWED to choose roles now. So women want what is best for themselves...boo hoo that you don't like it.
well, if you want a relationship with a man, you should have some interest in understanding what a man wants. ignoring what men want will alienate them.
if you hadn't noticed, modern feminism has a habit of trivializing what men want.
and still single, despite that I am independent and have a good job and my own place I still don't know WTF I want so maybe the above issues won't apply to me!!!!!
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