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Of course I do! I love when he touched me! I feel like now though it's transitioning from a close friendship to a maybe relationship...I just wish I knew the certainty of a relationship versus "oh yeah, let's go hang out & afterwards, I get to feel you up..." make sense?
he does not get to feel you up unless you want to. You have the control. You don't have to do anything.
Of course I do! I love when he touched me! I feel like now though it's transitioning from a close friendship to a maybe relationship...I just wish I knew the certainty of a relationship versus "oh yeah, let's go hang out & afterwards, I get to feel you up..." make sense?
Well, this is key. You control whether some guy gets to feel you up. You're right, he may very well just want to feel you up for fun, without wanting the full relationship. The thing is, you don't sound like you have any control. It's all in whether he wants a relationship or not. That's not right. Also, you shouldn't give up your body in the hopes that he will want a relationship. If you want a relationship, you need to speak up and do it before you make any sort of plans for intimacy. If you are uncertain where you stand, do not take any steps towards sex unless you would be comfortable with NSA sex (which is basically what you've been doing so far.)
Hey y'all, I've been avoiding the relationships board for awhile, mostly because I haven't had a lot of romantic interests going on in my personal life but I have new news: to make a long story short, I let this guy I've been dating touch me down there for the first time last night, no clothes were off, just my panties...I told him I didn't want to be just a "fling" for him & he told me that he wanted me for more than that, we've been talking since November & I feel like he was honest & that I can be myself around him...I just didn't want to feel slutty. That's all that's happened, the most we've done is kiss/make out. No other fooling around, etc. etc. He's 10 yrs older than I am & much more experienced & comfortable with exploring his sexuality than I am (I'm in my early '20s, he's in his early '30s) & he says he knows women have needs/desires too & he's not judging me for it...he's kind of a liberal guy, & I'm somewhat traditional (even though letting him feel me up wasn't a "nice girl" thing to do) Was it slutty/wrong of me that I let him touch me & he fondled my breasts (albeit clothed) a little bit? & do you think he really doesn't believe in the double standard for women?
Just a hunch, but I would wager to say he had a HUGE smile the next day! Haha!
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Well, this is key. You control whether some guy gets to feel you up. You're right, he may very well just want to feel you up for fun, without wanting the full relationship. The thing is, you don't sound like you have any control. It's all in whether he wants a relationship or not. That's not right. Also, you shouldn't give up your body in the hopes that he will want a relationship. If you want a relationship, you need to speak up and do it before you make any sort of plans for intimacy. If you are uncertain where you stand, do not take any steps towards sex unless you would be comfortable with NSA sex (which is basically what you've been doing so far.)
What? We haven't had NSA sex at all & I made it very clear that I did not want that. There's been no fooling around whatsoever until last night, no oral, anal, etc. Last night, we were making out & things got a little steamy & I let him touch me down there, my clothes were on except for my underwear & he was fully clothed. It wasn't that long either, I don't know what you're referring to? I DO have control, I just wanted to know what y'all thought about the "situation?"
Of course I do! I love when he touched me! I feel like now though it's transitioning from a close friendship to a maybe relationship...I just wish I knew the certainty of a relationship versus "oh yeah, let's go hang out & afterwards, I get to feel you up..." make sense?
I understand. I'm thinking you don't feel very comfortable with where you stand with him. Give it more time and have an open communication with him. I think if you were confident in the way he feels about you, you wouldn't be asking us this question.
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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I understand. I'm thinking you don't feel very comfortable with where you stand with him. Give it more time and have an open communication with him. I think if you were confident in the way he feels about you, you wouldn't be asking us this question.
Thanks max's mama, I feel like you're the only one who's getting me right now.
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