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Its a Friday night, I'm 24 and have no real friends my age to go anywhere with so I'm relegated to just sitting in my lonely apartment again surfing the web.
I've tried volunteering, going to events, etc. but still I rarely meet any eligible girls (mostly old people). I'm interested in too many unusual things most my age have zero knowledge in. So, I honestly don't know what to do anymore to meet girls...and I realize that at the rate I'm going, I'll be alone for the rest of my life unless I get out more. I've never been into the bar or club scene and don't think I'd want to meet a girl from there.
I miss having a close-knit community of people to confide with, like how it was in high school and to a lesser extent college (I was a commuter student that rarely got involved in school activities).
What are my options?
PS: I've looked into online dating sites but never found a girl from those that I'd be interested in dating.
You could find a girl being interested in you only if you try to make yourself into a jerk, dress up like a gangsta, and hit the clubs, you could find some female attention then.
You could find a girl being interested in you only if you try to make yourself into a jerk, dress up like a gangsta, and hit the clubs, you could find some female attention then.
And....did that worked for you, Mr. Passive-aggressive who resents women?
Its a Friday night, I'm 24 and have no real friends my age to go anywhere with so I'm relegated to just sitting in my lonely apartment again surfing the web.
I've tried volunteering, going to events, etc. but still I rarely meet any eligible girls (mostly old people). I'm interested in too many unusual things most my age have zero knowledge in. So, I honestly don't know what to do anymore to meet girls...and I realize that at the rate I'm going, I'll be alone for the rest of my life unless I get out more. I've never been into the bar or club scene and don't think I'd want to meet a girl from there.
I miss having a close-knit community of people to confide with, like how it was in high school and to a lesser extent college (I was a commuter student that rarely got involved in school activities).
What are my options?
PS: I've looked into online dating sites but never found a girl from those that I'd be interested in dating.
Honestly, without you possibly knowing, some women have already probably checked you out and wished you had made the first move. I don't care what decade we're living in-it's still pretty traditional when it comes to meeting women. You have to build up some courage and initiate conversations.
I'm definitely not the world's best looking guy. In fact, I'm probably one of the "ugly guys" you mentioned in another post. I'm a fair skinned guy with acne scars and growing a bit of a belly. And, like yourself, I'm not very sociable with new people.
All that said, I can look back through my adult years (I'm going on 40) and remember times that I passed on asking a woman out because I feared rejection. Fortunately, I'm married to an attractive woman who must have overlooked some of my shortcomings.
I think all the advice you have heard here is pretty sound. Not sure I agree with using alcohol as a way to relax yourself. However, I've done the same thing. I guess you need to find a way to relax and be yourself without depending on something. Probably the best thing I've read is involving yourself in activities. Get involved in sports, take classes etc. Hiking clubs are great ways to meet people. One word of advice-go for the enjoyment, don't try to push things, women will sense a bit of desperation if you are beating their doors down at your first group meeting or hike, or whatever you choose to do. Anyways, I kinda know what you're going through. My 20's were lonely and aimless it seemed. Maybe working through some post adolescent stuff, I guess. For what it's worth, the 30's are MUCH better. good luck, and hang in there....
Its a Friday night, I'm 24 and have no real friends my age to go anywhere with so I'm relegated to just sitting in my lonely apartment again surfing the web.
I've tried volunteering, going to events, etc. but still I rarely meet any eligible girls (mostly old people). I'm interested in too many unusual things most my age have zero knowledge in. So, I honestly don't know what to do anymore to meet girls...and I realize that at the rate I'm going, I'll be alone for the rest of my life unless I get out more. I've never been into the bar or club scene and don't think I'd want to meet a girl from there.
I miss having a close-knit community of people to confide with, like how it was in high school and to a lesser extent college (I was a commuter student that rarely got involved in school activities).
What are my options?
PS: I've looked into online dating sites but never found a girl from those that I'd be interested in dating.
I have a son who is 18, just turned 18 in Jan. His brother is 22 been with his gf since he was 16, his younger brother is 16 he has been with his gf since he was 12. He has never had a gf yet..He is so shy, everyone tries to set him up. I told him when the time is right he will find one. My son is very loving, so I know the when he does find a girlfriend he is going to be very good to her. He gets pressured to lose his virginity, I think its good he is holding out for someone special, He's been going out more with his sisters boyfriend and her brother inlaw hoping to find a someone special..Just hang in there..theres a time for everything.
You've gotten a lot of good advice here, but another thing to keep in mind, when you don't have a lot of real-world experience, is that relationships rarely go down the way they to on TV, in movies, or worse, porn. Don't look to entertainment to see how to act or how things work--it's all fake.
Top ten places where I've met guys who have asked me out:
1. School and school events
2. Introductions from mutual friends
5. Private parties
6. Clubs, Restaurants, and Bars
7. Dance class (Salsa)
8. Car shows, Boat Shows, Fairs, etc.
9. The beach, the gym, the pool, the golf course, the tennis court, etc.
10. Fundraising and Special Interest events
If I were a single guy looking to meet women, I'd take dancing lessons, yoga, or even Zumba classes. It's always full of women and very few men.
Life is too short to spend it at home staring at your computer. Even if you don't meet women, it sounds like you need to broaden your world. Travel, join clubs, learn a new instrument, learn a new language, learn to dance, learn to cook. Do something!
You sound like you don't relish life and that's a turn off. Girls like guys who are interesting, energetic, and fun to be around.
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, but it does work and did work for a lot of people I know 
hhm "I wouldn't try it but it worked on a lot of people I know"
