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Its a pretty simple question. Ladies, does what a man do for a living increase the odds of you dating him?
I think the idea is more that lots of women like status because they think that being attached to someone who has "high value" will make them happy. Doesn't always work out that way, so I think their opinions can change as they get older, but I don't think the idea that women like status is a generally incorrect generalization.
Status? How about professional common interests or matched personality characteristics, which can be tied to the types of jobs we have? I see more of "likes with likes" relationships than shallow lady looking to climb the ladder partnerships.
That, and does he enjoy his job? Is he good at it and proud of what he does? Or is he going to come home every night in a funk because he spends 8+ hours a day being miserable doing something that he hates?
My thoughts exactly.
However, I tend to NOT date certain types: Writers, artists, musicians. It's not a money thing. It's that there can only be one eccentric, moody, creative type in my relationships and that would be me.
However, I tend to NOT date certain types: Writers, artists, musicians. It's not a money thing. It's that there can only be one eccentric, moody, creative type in my relationships and that would be me.
When I was a street performer I had a no-clown dating rule. I knew a lot of clowns (literally). Ime, they tend to be all over the place and flighty. I also wasn't keen on dating performers in general. Like you, one is enough.
As somebody who works in a biz where there are lots of single women, it's really interesting to hear them describe the guys in their lives in casual conversation.
When one woman asks another woman about the new guy in her life, the answer is almost always, "Well, he's a [occupation]..." Not, "Well, he's really funny" or anything else for that matter.
Why is that?
Probably bc it helps describe him very quickly (you can often get an idea of some characteristics based on job) and bc women are socialized to ask that.
Plus, we're always told that men tend to define themselves by their careers.
Type of job?
One that requires using your brain.
Someone who enjoys work with objective goals (vs artsy fartsy stuff). That just tells me they enjoy black-and-white more (as do I).
They have to like what they do and be really damn good at it (commitment to excellence and I don't want to hear a bunch of whining).
They have to give their work and attention to detail 110% all the time (something about slackers and half-asses really just cheezes me off - I hate that personality).
Something that doesn't conflict with my morality (no whale hunters or baby seal clubbers or personal injury lawyers...you get the idea).
Helps if they have time to hang out with me, too.
My wife (MBA) manages a team of retirement/investment consultants at a not-for-profit company, she gets really angry if anyone screws up her clients' accounts, and she is always looking out for them and the best deal for them (without pushing unnecessary products - and the company doesn't do a lot of front-loaded type products). The job does not sound interesting to me, but she's the best at what she does where she is, and I am proud of her.
However, I tend to NOT date certain types: Writers, artists, musicians. It's not a money thing. It's that there can only be one eccentric, moody, creative type in my relationships and that would be me.
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Originally Posted by Braunwyn
When I was a street performer I had a no-clown dating rule. I knew a lot of clowns (literally). Ime, they tend to be all over the place and flighty. I also wasn't keen on dating performers in general. Like you, one is enough.
"no-clown dating rule", that is sooo funny Now these are good examples! My ultra creative friends seem like they have the most difficulties with relationships, not all but they seem to be most..Dynamic!
I'm an Aerospace Engineer and a good friend of mine is a Lawyer, We tried this at the bar a few times as a "Social" experiment. We identified ourselves as a dishwasher and a Janitor to the woman we met. Even though I think a Janitor is higher on the food chain than a Lawyer he was rapidly shot down when he identified himself as a janitor. I was also ignored as a dishwasher.
Conclusion: People will say they have no preference for a persons job when in reality they do. It is a reflection of who you are and where you are going in life.
DISCLAIMER: I am a man. Feel free to refute me as such.
Oftentimes the man's career can be indicative of his outlook on life. Women tend to be attracted to a man who is in control of his life. If the man is working at McDonald's it is likely not by choice. That burger-flipper is not in control of his life, so how can he be expected to give the woman a sense of security? Is the man not confident enough in his own abilities to exert himself in a more prestigious venue? Underlying lack of confidence = unattractive. Why isn't the man passionate about his career (flipping burgers)? Inability to pursue your passions and career goals = unattractive.
Let's say the man really is passionate about burger flipping. Why isn't he trying to be a chef or upgrading to Jack in the Box? Lack of ambition = unattractive. Maybe the man is passionate about working for McDonald's. Why isn't he advancing?
My point is that while the career choice may not be important, there is usually a correlation between what type of position you hold and your attitude toward life. A strong, confident man will pursue his passion relentlessly, continually seeking to better himself and fulfill his ambition. A strong, confident man also has control of his life and knows where he's headed. He puts all his career efforts toward exceeding his goals and striving to better himself in every way.
I love a man with an ambition and passion/love for what he is doing. Of course it is nice if he makes a decent living in a process, but I never looked for anyone who makes a ton of money as I could make my own.
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