Is thinking about the possiblity of cheating, cheating? (girls, single, family)

[LuckyGem]

Originally Posted by Dewdrop93

I'd say there is a line and that he's already crossed it. But that's just me. Looking at Craiglist for women is bad enough by itself if you are in a relationship. Contacting the women is even worse. I'd get out while I still could!

No doubt.

[Garfunkle524]

If it's not cheating now, it will be soon.

If my SO was doing crap like that they would have to shape up or ship out. It's disrespectful.

Just because it's not TECHNICALLY cheating doesn't mean it's not a d**k-move. I wouldn't put up with such douchey habits.

[laurenaus]

Not cool but sounds like he misses the chase and working his game but not enough to break things off with his girl.

[purehuman]

Originally Posted by katestar

I have a friend who's gf just started to work a few nights a week, he works 9-5. So he told me that he's trolling craigslist at night just to "check it out." He communicates with the women as if he will get with them and then stops replying to emails after talk gets to meeting up. He says he would never meet up with any of them because he loves his girl, etc etc. Where's the line?

He's walking a fine line alright. His girlfriend may indeed feel cheated if she finds out.....sure not in a physical way...but she may be hurt that he seeks the company of other woman on the internet....Not only that ,..he's being a major jerk to the lonely hearts out there seeking someone they are truly hoping to meet up with.

[Chowhound]

It's pretty much a d bag move.....

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by katestar

Is thinking about the possiblity of cheating, cheating?

Is thinking about the possibility of death, dying?

[Prince_Frog]

Thinking about cheating I couldn't consider cheating, but thinking about it says to me that something is wrong with the relationship.

Thinking about it isn't, but the actions that follow those thoughts will either define or end a relationship.

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

Is thinking about the possibility of death, dying?

I was just thinking this same thing!

[Grandpa Pipes]

Originally Posted by katestar

I have a friend who's gf just started to work a few nights a week, he works 9-5. So he told me that he's trolling craigslist at night just to "check it out." He communicates with the women as if he will get with them and then stops replying to emails after talk gets to meeting up. He says he would never meet up with any of them because he loves his girl, etc etc. Where's the line?

Guys (or Gals) like this are headed for a serious crash and burn when to get the "wandering eye". They forget that all human bodies are built one of two ways...male or female...everthing else is just a fantasy in your head.


Trust is one of the most important building blocks in any relationship. Beach the trust then everything else is..........gone! It just ain't worth it.


So when you get 'the urge" tell your significant other so they can "take care of you" or visit mother thumb and her five daughters. You'll calm down.........

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by katestar

I have a friend who's gf just started to work a few nights a week, he works 9-5. So he told me that he's trolling craigslist at night just to "check it out." He communicates with the women as if he will get with them and then stops replying to emails after talk gets to meeting up. He says he would never meet up with any of them because he loves his girl, etc etc. Where's the line?

That's not "just thinking about" cheating. That's deliberately searching personal ads to find someone who wants to cheat, leading them on, backing out and then starting the whole process over again with a new person.

That's really not just thinking about it. It's an awful lot of actual doing.

I can imagine this person in three more months going, "I don't know how it happened! I never, never meant for things to go so far. All I did was hunt down the personals online, find women who seemed very attractive and who seemed attracted to me, and engaged in nightly conversation with them, duh. I did NOT mean for us to eventually f * ck. I mean, usually after it gets to that point I stop that association and just start another one."

Oy gavalt.

Now, if the question were really about someone just thinking about cheating -- for example, having a fleeting 30-second fantasy as a cute person walked by -- I'd say, no, you silly thing, that's not cheating.