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Yeah, and don't forget about the people in the 15 yr old thread. There was no sex mentioned but most were ready to blast it down with their righteousness like cpg.
Oh, D-boy, quit living up to your name. You're talking about seducing a child. I'm talking about the decisions that adults make. Two utterly different things.
Would your wife agree with that? No? Neither would the judge in the divorce proceedings.
I was not talking about myself. I know I could never cheat on the woman I love and that oath we take. Its not to church or government, its to us and our prosperity.
However, after having said that. If my wife was a stripper and an escort on the side I would not care. Because I know about it and she is not keeping it secret, aside from our kids.
Having said that. One of the earlier posts was on how monogamy is something that the religious nutjobs came up with. And that is not true. The human penis has evolved from the way it use to be. We use to have a penis that was rough skin to move the sperm from competing males to try and increase our likelihood of impregnating that woman. Evolution takes thousands of years to happen. And I am not talking about 4 or 5 thousand of years. I am talking about 7 to 10 thousand years of evolution. So yeah that crap about monogamy is just that.
I thought a little more about this question and decided I had more to add.
For more, I get the same high as someone that goes bungee jumping. When I begin to seduce a man, my heart rates speeds up, my skin tingles and I feel more alive. Few things in life give me such a rush. No, wait. NOTHING in life gives me the same rush.
Of course, like other adrenaline junkies, this urge slows down with age.
Well, to be fair, I think a lot of the judgemental posts come from people for whom this is a very painful and sometimes, still raw topic. I've encountered my fair share of hatred for being honest about this. I think it's just a good idea to remember why they react that way.
However, when the OP clearly states what he is looking for, I don't know why they feel the need to post their opinions anyway.
The key to not hurting your partner is: don't get caught and don't needlessly hurt them with a confession that will not help anything but your own guilty conscience.
Maybe some would disagree ....I ain't one of them though. Actually had to rep you on this. This is a topic that'll put folks on the prod....I was on the receiving end of a cheater....hurt like a horsewhippin'....then I just lost all feeling for a spell.
At this point "stepping out" didn't seem like such a big deal. The whole " just sex" thing seemed to make sense. To bring.that up to my current SO would be pointless and counterproductive.
If you do something you regret....deal with it. Yourself.....don't try to vindicate your own conscience by dragging in someone else.
I never could understand why some people have this desire to dump mental baggage on someone else. Especially someone you are supposed to care about. Letting a sleeping dog lay is a good idea. One should keep counsel with ones own conscience ....that is a bilateral system not open to outside influence. Your mistakes are your own.....don't try and seek absolution from anyone but yourself. You will not like the results.
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Originally Posted by cpg35223
....Chances are, if they could have looked in a crystal ball, they would have been totally astonished that they would eventually make the beast with two backs with someone besides their spouses...
...death and paying taxes; everything else is relative.
Maybe some would disagree ....I ain't one of them though. Actually had to rep you on this. This is a topic that'll put folks on the prod....I was on the receiving end of a cheater....hurt like a horsewhippin'....then I just lost all feeling for a spell.
At this point "stepping out" didn't seem like such a big deal. The whole " just sex" thing seemed to make sense. To bring.that up to my current SO would be pointless and counterproductive.
If you do something you regret....deal with it. Yourself.....don't try to vindicate your own conscience by dragging in someone else.
I never could understand why some people have this desire to dump mental baggage on someone else. Especially someone you are supposed to care about. Letting a sleeping dog lay is a good idea. One should keep counsel with ones own conscience ....that is a bilateral system not open to outside influence. Your mistakes are your own.....don't try and seek absolution from anyone but yourself. You will not like the results.
And here's the flipside...
Some people do not want to be married to a person that is a liar and a cheat, and some people would never want to be played a fool. Seriously, the cheater must be thinking "he/she is a dumb*ss, they don't even know that I'm screwing someone behind their back"
Some people would never want to be with someone who doesn't respect them enough to be faithful. If they can't be faithful, why not just TELL them you want out of the marriage???
You aren't "saving" that person from heartbreak by telling them...you are saving yourself from having to deal with that person dumping your ass for someone that deserves their love and repsect....or to decide that you ARE worth it to try and salvage the relationship.
And here's the other tidbit, what goes around, comes around. That person you are cheating on likely knows it. They just don't have evidence to prove it.
You already know my story. I felt like I got bait and switched. After the wedding, his libido fell off the map. I didn't sign up for that! So, while I still loved him desperately, I wasn't ready to end my sex life.
Same thing happened to me, exactly. Only I let him know something was up before I cheated. He said "do what you have to do." I never stopped loving my husband, but what I did not realize until then was that he had stopped loving me.
The cheating was a good experience for me. It showed me that I was still an attractive sexual being who would have a healthy physical life ahead of me after the marriage inevitably ended.
Same thing happened to me, exactly. Only I let him know something was up before I cheated. He said "do what you have to do." I never stopped loving my husband, but what I did not realize until then was that he had stopped loving me.
The cheating was a good experience for me. It showed me that I was still an attractive sexual being who would have a healthy physical life ahead of me after the marriage inevitably ended.
I know I sound like a broken record, but this is the typical scenario of the Affair or fling being the result of the end of a relationship. I didn't say failed because the majoriy of relationships should not last as long as they do. People are just brain washed to believe that "All relationships are for ever". Most are not meant to last as evidenced by the low success rate of meeting one person, falling in love, getting married, then dieing together! Thats poor odds in my book!
I cheated on a guy at the beginning of a relationship (technically before we were even exclusive), and it wouldn't have been considered cheating, except that it was with his best friend. His best friend declared his love for me and was willing to do anything to be with me (including lying and betraying his best friend). I was confused, lonely, and depressed and did not use my better judgement.
I cheated on a guy at the beginning of a relationship (technically before we were even exclusive), and it wouldn't have been considered cheating, except that it was with his best friend. His best friend declared his love for me and was willing to do anything to be with me (including lying and betraying his best friend). I was confused, lonely, and depressed and did not use my better judgement.
So you went with the best friend?
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