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You clearly said a few boyfriendS first, which is plural, but you went and changed it to "a BOYFRIEND" just now which doesnt help you, cheating more than once is what everyone else views as bad right?. And it doesn't matter if you would do it again or not or if you were married/not married, cheating is cheating lol. You pretty much looked down on the other guy not only because he brought in a child into it, but because he was "disloyal".
And yes, it has something to do with you posting in another thread because saying one thing in one, and switching around in another is called hypocrisy.
And if you "should not have to explain" why did you?
Excuse me, but berating people is against the rules of the thread. I'm not interested in a witch hunt. Just curious what prompts people to do this.
And then indulge in a lot of bluster about how much they prize monogamy, blah blah blah.
Psst... if you're truly in love, you don't cheat. And guess what? You ain't seriously tempted either. I have no moral qualm about polygamy at all, I'm not religious in the slightest... but great sex with one person beats whatever you're doing.
If the sex is really that great while balling every available woman, then why ever move on? If she's rocking your world, why dump her for an untested entity?
Last edited by JustJulia; 07-28-2011 at 01:24 PM..
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I have been faithful to my wife, 99% of the time...
Some years ago, one of our kids went through something pretty awful. Not going to say what it was, but trust me, it was nothing anyone here could imagine. It was off the map, and our child needed quite a lot of special love and hand holding. I was so worried and broken up, that for the first few nights afterwards, I slept on the floor of their bedroom. For months, it was the last thought I had every night, and the first I had every morning. It hit me square in the forehead as soon as I opened my eyes.
After a while, I realized that my wife started to fade on me; I felt she got back to normal way too fast. Felt she deserted both me and our child, and I started to resent her for it. And then came the anger. Never been a silent sufferer, besides, our kid needed her, and we had some real Pier 6 brawls over this one. Never in front of our child though. We both knew that was the last thing our child needed; then not only would they have the initial hurt do deal with, but also the guilt of thinking that they were the cause of our discord.
At that time I was in a business where I had "access" to a lot of beautiful women. It started with a few drinks, some hand holding, a kiss goodnight, but soon it escalated to sex. And after the first, there was a second and a third and so on. This went on for months, all with different women, was more like a rampage than a series of affairs. I'm not one for soulless sex, believe it or not. I get caught up and easily crossover to some kind of emotional attachment. But it was never love. I always loved my wife very much.
The problem was that we couldn't talk about the issue. Anytime we tried it always turned into an argument, and once that happens all logic goes out the window and you have no chance of understanding each others point of view. It was on my own that I finally realized that what had happened to our child was just too much for her to handle. She was hiding from it, just couldn't cope. She is stronger than I am in some ways. I think we all have our strong and weak spots. Once I got it, I easily forgave her and that anger was replaced with compassion. We were stronger for each other than ever, on a much deeper level, and all these years later I have never been unfaithful again.
Psst... if you're truly in love, you don't cheat. And guess what? You ain't seriously tempted either. I have no moral qualm about polygamy at all, I'm not religious in the slightest... but great sex with one person beats whatever you're doing.
If the sex is really that great while balling every available woman, then why ever move on? If she's rocking your world, why dump her for an untested entity?
For someone so apparently arrogant, you seem to lack reading comprehension. All I'm trying to do is get to the heart of motivation here. And that's pretty hard to do when people like you get on the thread and start acting like Cotton Mather.
Last edited by JustJulia; 07-28-2011 at 01:25 PM..
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Psst... moron... if you're truly in love, you don't cheat. And guess what? You ain't seriously tempted either. I have no moral qualm about polygamy at all, I'm not religious in the slightest... but great sex with one person beats whatever you're doing.
If the sex is really that great while balling every available woman, then why ever move on? If she's rocking your world, why dump her for an untested entity?
Who are you calling a moron? This is why I rarely if ever participate in many of the cheating threads anymore. Too many "perfect" people such as yourself who want to cast judgment on others because they don't meet your standards of conduct, regardless of their life situation. It's unfortunate we can't have a nice adult and candid discussion here without petty name calling and the crowd of holier-than-thou's with their torches and pitchforks.
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