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I get vibes he is interesting so the worst thing is he rejects me. He's a nice guy so it won't be a mean rejection. At best maybe he will be the man I marry because I took a chance.
i hate that double-standard!!!!! i think it is stupid, dumb that it makes girls look desperate
Its make the woman look desperate to an insecure man. A secure man would certainly appreciate the effort unless the woman was not appealing in his eyes.
I have approached me to varying results. Most of the time though the guys aren't interested. Often they have a girlfriend/wife/boyfriend, other times are not looking for a relationship. A few times they just were not interested. It has made me very scared of approaching a man because of rejection. I am getting up the nerve to ask this shy guy out because I suspect he won't ask me because he is afraid.
What you've experienced is what most guys experience. It seems like you've asked more guys than most women so kudos to you.
Pretty much. Even average to below average women get approached. If you're most guys you can't stand around and wait for the women to approach.
Agree. I don't think there is anything wrong with males initiating with females, but some of my male friends act tough and make it sound like they rarely initiate and wait for women to approach them. It's so silly to play a game. I don't like being rejected anymore than the next person, but it's better to ask than assume or wait around hoping the other person initiates.
What you've experienced is what most guys experience. It seems like you've asked more guys than most women so kudos to you.
I do because I know women who got up the nerve and found he liked them too. Unfortunately that hasn't been my experience but have found that some men did like me that I liked but both of us were too shy to approach.
Very true. The worst (which I dread)is he will say no but he's a great guy so he won't be rude about it.
He won't say no. If you can't bring yourself to casually ask him out for coffee (or whatever, even just refreshments at one of those events you both attend), ask your (mutual) friends to organize a barbecue, or something, and invite you both.
I know several of them are thinking of asking him to do a double date kind of thing which would be cool. I think I am going to ask him to come over and play cards at my parents house (he knows them and we all live in the same town).
Seriously, there's nothing wrong with taking the intuitive! In fact, I think its easier for women to approach the man they want then men approaching women. Women can just simply break the ice easier and read men much better then us men read women, so they know when a guy is attracted to them. Us men in the other hand (most of us), can be so stupid and oblivious to how women may feel about us.
For example, I made a thread a while back but I don't remember what the title of the thread was but the topic was similar to this but more about my cousin not wanting to approach this guy she liked because she felt that it wasn't a womens job to approach a guy in ANY way. We argued since then about this stupid idea in her head on way she thinks women can't ask guys out. We debated to no end on this but finally, she figured she'll take my advice.
So, to make a long story short, her and the guy she met at the college have gotten to know one another but he was very shy but she felt that he was attracted to her. This whole time he just thought (from what she told me) that she just liked him as a friend. She really liked him and got tired of waiting for him to ask her out so she finally listened and did the rare thing by asking the guy out. In the end, things worked out well and they are now an item.
He takes more intiative now in terms of dating and all that but she agree's that it wasn't so bad to ask a guy out.
So all I am saying to you women is; if there's a guy you really want, don't fret, go for it!! There's nothing wrong with women approaching men and like I mentioned, its even easier for women!
Not to say us men will never make a move but c'mon, more so than not most of us men suck at approaching women, correct?
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i think it is stupid, dumb that it makes girls look desperate
