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I think there's a lot of truth in it, and speaking from my own personal experience, when I was in my early 20s I was very attractive, and I was hit on constantly by men who had no realistic chance of dating me. And they tended to be quite aggressive in their pursuit, in some cases. I think it's okay to ask someone out, even if they are "out of your league" but when pursuing turns almost stalkerish, it becomes wrong.
But that’s with anyone...you shouldn’t keep pursuing someone not interested in you..Leagues\looks wise has nothing to do with it..It would be the same thing if a good looking dude pursued you and you turned him down and he kept trying..what the guy looked like was completely irrrelevant to the story other then you bragging..
I’ve had model level women into me and mediocre looking women look at me like how dare you enter my airspace.. So the idea that just by going after women you deem unattractive will get these men a date is ignorant thinking.
OK, fine, yes, that brings up another point that's been discussed to death here in the past; guys who are angry that when they approach "fat chicks", they get turned down, too. One can't assume that women with average looks, or chubby women, are going to automatically be into an average guy who approaches them. One can't guarantee anything about anyone; that's pretty much the way humanity works. There are no guarantees.
There also may be other factors at work, when the average-looking woman turns a guy down. He doesn't know why she's turning him down, but may assume it's because of looks, or height. But maybe she's seen him at the local grocery store, where he's a member of the staff, and she's a lawyer, engineer or professor. No matter how good-looking he is or isn't, she's not going to be interested. Or maybe she can see that he's way too young for her. Or maybe she's already dating someone she's into. How would you know why you got the "how dare you enter my air space" look? (I'm sorry people do that, btw. Sorry that's happened to you.) Maybe she was having a bad day, and didn't want to deal with a social moment?
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But that’s with anyone...you shouldn’t keep pursuing someone not interested in you..Leagues\looks wise has nothing to do with it..It would be the same thing if a good looking dude pursued you and you turned him down and he kept trying..what the guy looked like was completely irrrelevant to the story other then you bragging..
It's not bragging, though. It's actually a really big problem for a lot of young women. And if they complain about it, they're told they're egotistical or stuck up. But it truly can be difficult to go about their day to day lives without some creep hitting on them. It's hard to get this point through to men and your response is very typical. As a man, you would never even know how a young, attractive woman experiences life. And when a lot of the unwanted advances happen before the young woman is even old enough to have fully developed assertiveness skills, it can be a problem. Even worse if she's been raised to be polite and nice to everyone.
OK, fine, yes, that brings up another point that's been discussed to death here in the past; guys who are angry that when they approach "fat chicks", they get turned down, too. One can't assume that women with average looks, or chubby women, are going to automatically be into an average guy who approaches them. One can't guarantee anything about anyone; that's pretty much the way humanity works. There are no guarantees.
Which was MY point all along lol..You were the one who wanted people to stick to their own leagues looks wise not me...
It's not bragging, though. It's actually a really big problem for a lot of young women. And if they complain about it, they're told they're egotistical or stuck up. But it truly can be difficult to go about their day to day lives without some creep hitting on them.
Once again I’m not dismissing any of your points what I’m saying is the attraction level of the men pursuing were completely irrelevant to your stories...
Would it be ok if a good looking guy you weren’t interested in harassed you?
Which was MY point all along lol..You were the one who wanted people to stick to their own leagues looks wise not me...
I define "leagues" very differently than you, but the guys who come here to complain make it all about looks, and they were the topic of my original comment you objected to, so....whatever. In different words, my point was, that if they'd cast a wider net, they might have better luck.
Once again I’m not dismissing any of your points what I’m saying is the attraction level of the men pursuing were completely irrelevant to your stories...
Would it be ok if a good looking guy you weren’t interested in harassed you?
I have found it quite rare that conventionally attractive men harass women for dates. They don't feel the need to pester women for dates. It's easy enough for them to move on if a woman says "no." Not so easy for the less attractive man, who will keep trying to grind down a woman's resolve.
Your trying to say Ruth didn’t say something she actually did lol...She didn’t just say “men are going after women who have no interest in them” she specified that there going after women too attractive for them In her own words “7’s and up” that’s a pretty specific statement as to what she meant..
I really don't care to prove or disprove whether or not that is what she meant because that wasn't the point of my post.
And yet again you're still ignoring everything else I said.....for what exactly? Because my points disprove your little theory about how folks believe that people need to go for someone they don't like to be in a "happy relationship." That is not what people are saying at all, it means folks should stop pursuing people they know damn well aren't interested in them, "attractive" or not. And while we're on the topic of hypocrisy why aren't you addressing the fact that these same guys who constantly complain about not getting the women they want to get, are literally doing the same thing to people who are interested in them? Explain that.
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In different words, my point was, that if they'd cast a wider net, they might have better luck.
