SO, I'm waiting until marriage to have sex... (hubby, difference, reason)
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I never said sex was disgusting...EVER. I'm sure it will be wonderful when it happens, WITH the person I plan to spend the rest of my life with.
What I found disgusting was that someone that young already had that many sexual partners. It's slutty, plain and simple.
Well I think a **** is someone who has sex to gain self esteem or make people like them which is pretty weak and sad imo. I do not think someone is a **** just because they've has more than one (or even "a lot") of sexual partners and personally enjoy it. But again I hope your feelings of superiority and baby jesus are enough to get ya through, but you already don't seem to be able to respond to challenges of your decision very well so I doubt it. :/
I can totally see where that is disgusting. To be only 19 years old and already had sex that many times. If that is true which is questionable. However, if it is it can be surmised then that he doesn't think of sex as having much meaning to it than just getting off.
Oh, and this whole, YOU are judgmental crap. Yeah, more people should be judgmental and use (OH UH) discrimination when choosing partners.
Because if you treat your body as a temple and don't separate it from your mind (and soul for those who believe in such things), then sex is more than just a physical act and virginity is not something to just get rid of. It is an all encompassing act for one who holds it dear and those who do not understand that just won't. That's fine but don't impose your non-belief on someone who holds those silly details dear. It is important for the op that she is with one who shares the same values. Try to be non judgmental and understand.
A temple? My body should be worshipped.
Sorry, my mind, body and spirit are here to enjoy life.
And oddly, they are worshipped by my SO, as I do his.
Sex is a physcial act. It just is. And when you find that connection with another, it becomes elevated.
To find sex disgusting (a guy who may have had one partner every YEAR), is a red flag.
If you can not enjoy all aspects of life... well, then I feel sorry for you.
If she didn't make that comment, I would support her 100%.
I LOVE how my comment is taken out of context....NOT.
I didn't say sex was disgusting. I said that someone 19 years of age who has already has four sexual partners is disgusting. And I stand by that. That is NOT the kind of person I want to date. Period.
I LOVE how my comment is taken out of context....NOT.
I didn't say sex was disgusting. I said that someone 19 years of age who has already has four sexual partners is disgusting. And I stand by that. That is NOT the kind of person I want to date. Period.
You know, I don't know many people who didn't have at least four sex partners by the time they were 19. I know at least one person who probably had had that many by the end of 8th grade.
Sorry, my mind, body and spirit are here to enjoy life.
And oddly, they are worshipped by my SO, as I do his.
Sex is a physcial act. It just is. And when you find that connection with another, it becomes elevated.
To find sex disgusting (a guy who may have had one partner every YEAR), is a red flag.
If you can not enjoy all aspects of life... well, then I feel sorry for you.
If she didn't make that comment, I would support her 100%.
So, if it's just physical where you & him are dtf and never see him again, how exactly is that elevated? Is there a spiritual, emotional connection? I think you are writing about dating a guy for a while and having sex. Well, her connection consists of making a true commitment not a half arsed, let's be monogamous sexually until we get sick of each other or another hottie wants me. This is not acceptable to the op. Many people (including me) take that chance but she isn't willing to. It's her right to want a man committed emotionally & spiritually to her within the sacrament of marriage to give herself fully. I can understand it because after much dating & 'committed' relationships, the only true committed relationship is marriage. Can it break up, yes of course, but it's a lot harder to than with a gf/bf.
It's frightening how many people base who they would marry by how great the sex is before considering anything deeper. Lots of friends I know who are divorced did that. They put the cart before the horse thinking sex was an indicator of deeper feelings. If that's deep, you are one shallow pond! What was great in the beginning, now easily falls by the wayside by what life throws at us over time: illness, stress, kids, money problems, all of this will put a damper on your sex life. The key is to have real bond based on spiritual, emotional ties. So, one who waits to establish something more before getting sexual is looking for long term gratification. The goal is a life long mate.
So, if it's just physical where you & him are dtf and never see him again, how exactly is that elevated? Is there a spiritual, emotional connection? I think you are writing about dating a guy for a while and having sex. Well, her connection consists of making a true commitment not a half arsed, let's be monogamous sexually until we get sick of each other or another hottie wants me. This is not acceptable to the op. Many people (including me) take that chance but she isn't willing to. It's her right to want a man committed emotionally & spiritually to her within the sacrament of marriage to give herself fully. I can understand it because after much dating & 'committed' relationships, the only true committed relationship is marriage. Can it break up, yes of course, but it's a lot harder to than with a gf/bf.
It's frightening how many people base who they would marry by how great the sex is before considering anything deeper. Lots of friends I know who are divorced did that. They put the cart before the horse thinking sex was an indicator of deeper feelings. If that's deep, you are one shallow pond! What was great in the beginning, now easily falls by the wayside by what life throws at us over time: illness, stress, kids, money problems, all of this will put a damper on your sex life. The key is to have real bond based on spiritual, emotional ties. So, one who waits to establish something more before getting sexual is looking for long term gratification. The goal is a life long mate.
I'm a shallow pond?!!! I was faithful and happy with the same man for 18 years. Fours years after his death I am in a monogmous committed relationship with a guy whom i will marry.
I am quite fine thank you VERY much.
Apparently from what you say about yourself, your morals are MUCH less than my own. You may want to sit down and lecture YOURSELF.
I'm a shallow pond?!!! I was faithful and happy with the same man for 18 years. Fours years after his death I am in a monogmous committed relationship with a guy whom i will marry.
I am quite fine thank you VERY much.
Apparently from what you say about yourself, your morals are MUCH less than my own. You may want to sit down and lecture YOURSELF.
I'm discussing a subject matter and not your life as I do not know it. All I can do is respond to what is posted.
Btw, the 'you' are a shallow pond was not directed at you. I apologize. The second paragraph was for those thinking sex was a major factor in considering marriage.
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What was great in the beginning, now easily falls by the wayside by what life throws at us over time: illness, stress, kids, money problems, all of this will put a damper on your sex life. The key is to have real bond based on spiritual, emotional ties. So, one who waits to establish something more before getting sexual is looking for long term gratification. The goal is a life long mate.
Fours years after his death I am in a monogmous committed relationship with a guy whom i will marry.
