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So you’ve taken him out to dinners and things like that (you taking care of expenses) when you start dating, right?
Lots of women “offer” but not so many pay. I wouldn’t want to “try” to do house chores at home, I DO THEM. When a girl asks me out I don’t “offer” or “try”, I CONTRIBUTE. Same thing with them and some have even put their foot down letting me know that they WANT TO pay or they won’t enjoy going out again like that. I repeat, this is not good/bad, better or not, just the way you do your things and the way I do my things. Hey, as long as you and your guy are fine with it, right?
And you taking care of dating expenses (his and yours) wouldn’t be a problem either as well, right?
Sure I'd take care of his dating expenses. I just pay with my debit card that debits out of his account.
Look, I don't care what your husband, exes, or the men who frequent this forum are. You're acting like you haven't heard people make comments about how scarce gentlemen are nowadays. If you don't believe that's the case, simply state it, because this has nothing to do with the people who frequent this forum.
Actually, I see a big disconnect between the way many men behave on these boards and my own experience. Sorry, but as others have pointed out, the extent to which a few people pizz and moan about who pays for what is grossly out of proportion to reality. All of this whining is the self-indulgent nattering of a mere handful of people with axes to grind, many (if not most) of whom have never managed to form a steady relationship.
for me its not about being generous or cheap or anything. its a sign of whether or not he's interested in me. you know the classic "is this a date date?" kind of thing. if he wanted to go dutch i wouldn't jump to assume anything bad about him- i would just assume he wasn't that into me. accordingly, if i was not interested in him i would refuse to let him pay for me because i wouldnt want him to get the wrong idea, either.
So if a man wants to go dutch, that means he's not interested? Good lord!.
How about he's just not desperate for a piece of ass. A lot of these men out here are lame, so yeah they have to spend all their money to get a women to spend time with them. I'f I go dutch with a women on a date, that doesn't mean I'm 'not interested'. It means I don't know you well enough to be spending all my damn money you. I'f I buy dinner, she better damn well have her purse ready if we go do something else like go to the movies or go to a bar or something. And if she had a problem with that then she can go kick rocks for all I care. TOO many women out here to be wasting time with somebody with a entitlement complex.
Actually, I see a big disconnect between the way many men behave on these boards and my own experience.
Yes. Only on HERE do I read this stuff. Luckily, for these men though, there are women that will oblige. I won't, but it's good that there are others who will.
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Sorry, but as others have pointed out, the extent to which a few people pizz and moan about who pays for what is grossly out of proportion to reality. All of this whining is the self-indulgent nattering of a mere handful of people with axes to grind, many (if not most) of whom have never managed to form a steady relationship.
I agree with this as well. I'm really wondering if any of these "dutch" dates for the men lead to second ones. I'm sure for the women it would since the guy knows he doesn't have to pay for her and she'll probably even pay HIS way if he claims to be "low" on funds.
So if a man wants to go dutch, that means he's not interested? Good lord!.
How about he's just not desperate for a piece of ass. A lot of these men out here are lame, so yeah they have to spend all their money to get a women to spend time with them.
Not true. At least not with the ones I go out with. They are far from LAME.
"Lame" to me = cheap = pathetic = scrub.
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It means I don't know you well enough to be spending all my damn money you.
How much is "too much"? Just curious.
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I'f I buy dinner, she better damn well have her purse ready if we go do something else like go to the movies or go to a bar or something. And if she had a problem with that then she can go kick rocks for all I care.
How old are you? Are you over 21? You sound like a teenager working at McDonalds.
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TOO many women out here to be wasting time with somebody with a entitlement complex.
ROFLMAO!!!! Yes!! I absolutely agree!!!
You go get those women who don't feel they are "entitled". They are EVERYWHERE. Apparently.
So if a man wants to go dutch, that means he's not interested? Good lord!.
How about he's just not desperate for a piece of ass. A lot of these men out here are lame, so yeah they have to spend all their money to get a women to spend time with them. I'f I go dutch with a women on a date, that doesn't mean I'm 'not interested'. It means I don't know you well enough to be spending all my damn money you. I'f I buy dinner, she better damn well have her purse ready if we go do something else like go to the movies or go to a bar or something. And if she had a problem with that then she can go kick rocks for all I care. TOO many women out here to be wasting time with somebody with a entitlement complex.
well like i said in my post after that, it never happens so yea i would assume something had gone wrong. i guess i just don't date cool enough guys
So if a man wants to go dutch, that means he's not interested? Good lord!.
How about he's just not desperate for a piece of ass. A lot of these men out here are lame, so yeah they have to spend all their money to get a women to spend time with them. I'f I go dutch with a women on a date, that doesn't mean I'm 'not interested'. It means I don't know you well enough to be spending all my damn money you. I'f I buy dinner, she better damn well have her purse ready if we go do something else like go to the movies or go to a bar or something. And if she had a problem with that then she can go kick rocks for all I care. TOO many women out here to be wasting time with somebody with a entitlement complex.
Why is it all about getting a "piece of ass." Maybe that's your MO, but I assure you that not all guys are solely looking for that from their dates.
If I were your date, I'd be happy to go kick rocks. Not because you won't pay but mainly because your bitter 'tude is repulsive.
I don't know all about that "pampered" stuff on a FIRST DATE though, but everything else is about right.
Took quotes from the op and her stepford wife drones.
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