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i see nothing wrong on a first date each paying for their own meal - just a reminder you answered the question that it would two bills - he may have been looking at you for guidance in how to answer that question - believe it or not some women may have taken offense for not being given
the chance to pay their own way - i prefer to pay for my own meal on a first date - once i was on a date and he offered to pay for all - at the end of the evening when he wasnt asked in he said "you owe me" - i decided i would never hear that again and was shocked to learn i was a hooker that evening -
However, what's so funny about frequenting the same restaurant w/o tipping? Would I get kicked out or something?
At best you may receive poor service. At worst, well let your imagination run wild and you still won't arrive at all the possibilities. We typically get what we give. Give shyte and you get shyte. When it comes to people bringing you food that can be the case figuratively and litterally. I've seen some nasty stuff working in food establishments when I was young.
I went on a date with a man I met on match. He talked the whole time, which I was going to chalk up to nerves, he's a federal officer, divorced with kids. I have three rules when I date, no kids, no cops and no ex wives. Well, needless to say, he broke all the rules. However, when emailing back and forth we seemed to click, and I was really open to the idea. Also, he said several times what good money he makes.
Dinner was nice, conversation flowed just fine... when the waitress came to ask whether or not everything was on one bill, he looks at me? I then told her politely, it would be two checks. The waitress could tell we were on a first date, and she kept it on one piece of paper, but two different totals. She also set it right in front of him. He never once offered. I put out my 20.00 for the meal, and left a very nice tip too. He left 1.00 for a tip.
This has never happened to me before, although once in relationships I turn into the sugar Mama.
Is this a deal breaker? Is this just a sign of what's to come? I wouldn't have made him pay, but it's the OFFER that would have been nice...
Abandon ship.
Let's avoid the whole "Who pays?" question for the time being, although I am decidedly old school on the subject.
To me, the tip the man left is the crucial indicator of character. Unless the waitress spit in your food upon reaching the table, I cannot imagine a reason why you would insult a waitress with a $1.00 tip. It is cheap, petty, and speaks volumes about what your life together would be like.
However, what's so funny about frequenting the same restaurant w/o tipping? Would I get kicked out or something?
Don't f___ with the people handling your food. A regular customer who did not tip would most likely have his meal spit on, dropped on the floor, or a number of other creative ways of tampering with the food.
I think you are confusing having 'principles' with being a cheapo.
Ok.
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Kicked out - no. But I'm sure they find a way to make sure there's a little extra something with your meal!
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Originally Posted by Braunwyn
At best you may receive poor service. At worst, well let your imagination run wild and you still won't arrive at all the possibilities. We typically get what we give. Give shyte and you get shyte. When it comes to people bringing you food that can be the case figuratively and litterally. I've seen some nasty stuff working in food establishments when I was young.
Ok, I figured that was what the lol was for.
But honestly speaking, waiters putting crap in my meal isn't really a big concern of mine in the grand scheme of things. If I ever decide to start tipping again in the future ( which is very unlikely, btw ), I'm sure it wouldn't be out of fear of getting poisoned or fed trash or whatever else.
I'm also not of the opinion that people typically get what they usually give. According to laws of life, what would a server who puts crap in meals get? Perhaps mediocre to no tips because we all know life is fair, right?
true but I've been conditioned to not even offer because men get offended if I do so I haven't even offered in years! does that make me selfish? I'm a poor college kid..and I might even continue to be poor after I'm done for a few years after. Besides..the man in the OP raved about how much money he has..not like he's poor like what you're describing.
This explains a lot, which is why I don't date college or really young women. Most of them are broke, they bring nothing to the table.
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Perhaps mediocre to no tips because we all know life is fair, right?
does that make me selfish? I'm a poor college kid..and I might even continue to be poor after I'm done for a few years after. Besides..the man in the OP raved about how much money he has..not like he's poor like what you're describing.
