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I know it's nice to see people who are in love, but what do you think of people who just can't seem to keep their hands off each other? They're constantly holding hands, having their hand over their shoulders, making out, brushing each other's hair, kissing each other or whispering 'I love you'. Even in church sometimes I'd see that. I'm no prude, but do you not think that kind of behaviour is a bit inappropriate for a church service?
I'm not opposed to PDA's, but to those who do it constantly, get a room. I'm not jealous or anything, I'm not the type to constantly have to affirm how much I love somebody.
Call me a grumpy old (at heart) man, but what do you think of folks like this? Are you one yourself?
It's a phase of some relationships. I do think it's cheesy and immature, but we have to realize they're in a phase and won't be like that forever.
May that phase never end! We have been together for 20 years. We hold hands, kiss when we meet up, put an arm on a shoulder. I cannot see what is wrong with that.
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I don't go to church but PDA for me was always something I found "meh" before I was in a relationship, but now that I've been in a few long term relationships I don't really care what other people think. I'm not going to make out with my girlfriend in public, but I'm not worried about some stranger being grossed out when I give her a peck on the cheek/lips.
I guess I don't see the big deal as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else or isn't excessive.
These are the people who I'm talking about. Free country, of course, it has nothing to do with offending my moral sensibilities...but even 'tame' stuff, if done all the time...I dunno, I just have too much time to rant about stuff like this lol.
The effort one puts into criticizing affection and sexual behavior in others tends to be inversely proportional to the amount of affection and sex one gets.
In other words, the more someone complains or comments on what others do, the less that person is getting himself or herself. Likewise, those who make the biggest stink about it secretly long to have the same thing, whether they're aware of it or not. (See all the research on homophobes getting turned on by gay porn.)
So although my own behavior reflects what I feel to be appropriate for time and place, I just don't have the time or inclination to worry about what other people do.
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The effort one puts into criticizing affection and sexual behavior in others tends to be inversely proportional to the amount of affection and sex one gets.
In other words, the more someone complains or comments on what others do, the less that person is getting himself or herself. Likewise, those who make the biggest stink about it secretly long to have the same thing, whether they're aware of it or not. (See all the research on homophobes getting turned on by gay porn.)
So although my own behavior reflects what I feel to be appropriate for time and place, I just don't have the time or inclination to worry about what other people do.
Yes, to an extent..but it's more a case of me being a postaholic and just thinking up something to post, haha.
Yes, to an extent..but it's more a case of me being a postaholic and just thinking up something to post, haha.
I wasn't thinking of you when I wrote that. You just wrote a short post to open a topic. I was thinking more of people like the lady Hurricane mentioned here:
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I'm not a fan of seeing it just cos it reminds me of what's missing in my life, but when I had a GF I was pretty touchy-feely with her. We never made out in public (at least not where there were people :P) but I'd give her a quick peck now and then. One lady got mad at us, acting like I just punched a baby or something... sour apples.
I don't see anything wrong with hand holding, an arm over the shoulder or on the small of the back or hugging. Even a peck or a quick kiss is fine in my opinion.
If someone is making out, groping eachother and such I think that's a bit tacky in a public setting.
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I wasn't thinking of you when I wrote that. You just wrote a short post to open a topic. I was thinking more of people like the lady Hurricane mentioned here:
It's a fair wager she's not getting any lovin'.
Yeah some people are like that...I actually don't really care when I see people doing that, it may annoy me slightly but I don't make faces or anything. Nor would I raise a stink about folk doing that in church, just quietly express my opinion about it lol.
In other words, the more someone complains or comments on what others do, the less that person is getting himself or herself. Likewise, those who make the biggest stink about it secretly long to have the same thing, whether they're aware of it or not. (See all the research on homophobes getting turned on by gay porn.)
So although my own behavior reflects what I feel to be appropriate for time and place, I just don't have the time or inclination to worry about what other people do.
Not always or not even necessarily much of the time, but it's a good conversation stopper to say "you're just obsessed with (blah), because of (blah)" to shut people up. For example, if I complain about dogs, say that I dislike them and their fur and wet noses, rant about neighbours' dogs barking at night etc., and talk about my phobia of dogs (not a real example but hypothetical) does that mean I secretly love dogs and my doggy complaints are a secret defense mechanism against my own puppy love I am in denial about and dare not speak? Do people who say they don't want children and who complain about others' children secretly want children themselves?
Sometimes some people genuinely want to know/learn about what other peoples' behaviours or habits are like or voice their own opinions (some peoples' psychologies are so different -- for example, some people are so unable to relate to those who have different sexual, romantic or other orientations, other emotional or thinking styles etc. that they constantly talk about how they feel different as the "other"; for example there are some people who are really or genuinely asexual or non-romantic, or childless people talking about how they can't get why they and others feel so different about kids). I agree though it's not a good idea to "complain" about others' lifestyle differences, but just talking about stuff isn't alone a sign of some ulterior motive (though if you are used to people sneaking in ulterior motives to talking about things, you might get cynical towards it and assume everyone's like that).
Holding hands
Hand on the back
Hand on the leg
Holding a door
Kiss on the cheek isn't bad.
Now hand in the back pocket
Hand in the pants
Under the shirt
Tongue down the throat
GET A ROOM!
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