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I am generally confident about my photography, but when it comes to women I always doubt myself. I can't seem to ask them out. I can talk to them but even when the interest is obvious I can't make myself believe that they would be interested in dating me. This has cost me several women over the last fifteen years. Four in the last year alone. I know this issue is confidence/self esteem related. How can I fix this so I can start to live my life fully and stop losing out?
well some people say you have to 'beleive you are worth it' and 'if you don't love you, no one else can' it's all B.S. b/c i tried that and got me no where farther then i am now. sorry i don't have any actually advice just wanted to say that is a crock.
Well, you should sand in front of the mirror and tell yourself that you ARE unique (true), a good person, that you would be a good catch for some woman. Until that special someone comes along, work at making yourself more confident by working hard, making friends ( of both sexes), often when we FORGET about ourselves.....we just get more confident. By concentrating on others....trying to help THEM. That give us a confidence boost and makes us forget about our little petty worries.
1. You need to be to yourself what you want others to give you.
2. You can become any person that you want to be.
3. You probably have negative recordings in your brain pathways from when you are younger.
4. You can create new positive pathways in your brain by positive self talk along with action. If you combine those two things together you will begin to feel more confident.
5. You are whatever you want to be. Don't be dictated by what others think. Be confident in the direction you want to go. At first, people may say things about you but don't take in anything negative from anyone. You need to have an internal cycle that is connected to your divine power source that constantly produces a cycle of positive energy inside of you.
well some people say you have to 'beleive you are worth it' and 'if you don't love you, no one else can' it's all B.S. b/c i tried that and got me no where farther then i am now. sorry i don't have any actually advice just wanted to say that is a crock.
Don't listen to this whatsoever.
It isn't BS. Everyone is worth it, and everyone can be a catch, but you have to believe it yourself. Everyone has things they are good that, use them to your advantage. Also, life is always about self improvement, try to find things you want to fix and make better, don't look at it as you being bad in the moment, look at it as simple improvement and the future.
Get to the gym, work out. Get some new clothes and not only that... TALK to people. You'll get rejections and you'll get people who respond well. Focus on the people who respond well and what you did, and try to work on where you went wrong with the others.
Don't listen to negative people, they only bring you down. Life is about meeting really cool people and having fun experiences, nothing more, bring women along to your life, and make them think "wow this is fun", don't look at it like "will she like me?? i sure hope she's into me".
well some people say you have to 'beleive you are worth it' and 'if you don't love you, no one else can' it's all B.S. b/c i tried that and got me no where farther then i am now. sorry i don't have any actually advice just wanted to say that is a crock.
And I would say those people would be right.... think about it.. Would a boy or girl want to date a member of the opposite sex who doesnt appear to be fun, constantly seems upset.. etc?
I agree with the thinking that you have to love who you are as a person before people see that ur comfortable with urself...
It isn't BS. Everyone is worth it, and everyone can be a catch, but you have to believe it yourself. Everyone has things they are good that, use them to your advantage. Also, life is always about self improvement, try to find things you want to fix and make better, don't look at it as you being bad in the moment, look at it as simple improvement and the future.
Get to the gym, work out. Get some new clothes and not only that... TALK to people. You'll get rejections and you'll get people who respond well. Focus on the people who respond well and what you did, and try to work on where you went wrong with the others.
Don't listen to negative people, they only bring you down. Life is about meeting really cool people and having fun experiences, nothing more, bring women along to your life, and make them think "wow this is fun", don't look at it like "will she like me?? i sure hope she's into me".
I do not 'hate' you. I don't like most of the people in general b/c of their ways....anyways, you think by this OP 1. going to the gym 2. getting some clothes and 3. just taking shots at asking people out is going to amount to something?
Well I am saying it's not going to change much of anything. Why? Because I did that and again it resulted in nothing for years. That's why every time someone says 'oh just smile' or 'just beleive you can get any guy' I tell them what a crock it is b/c it does not work. What ends up happening is you end up seeing how they really couldn't care less how great you think you are -- you are still ugly and/or socially retarded (if those are what your problems are). You just end up looking delusional and stupid. So much for all this so called self esteem crap, goes right out the window! Everyone cannot become 'a catch' if that was so they would've done it by now. This OP have to realize they are going up against dozens of other males that have had real life results with women, women are going to pick the ones that are the most viable. The men do the same except it's based mostly on looks.
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