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I decided to ask out this women I've chatted with and shared some laughs and dog appreciation at the dog park several times (having her email from a social group).
I ask her to a dog fundraiser event where you bring your dogs and compete in fun competitions like races and dress-ups. I say "thought you might like to hang out at this fun event, etc."
She responds in bold letters that she finds me repulsive and no way in hell would she ever hang out with me! [Um, OK, that would be a no...]
Now, I'm a good-looking, fit, albeit aging guy, who she's seen interacting pleasantly with people of all stripes (and their dogs). So why she would choose to respond in an ugly, hostile manner does not compute (she's probably just about 5 years younger). I take it as her having big issues (self-esteem or past-abuse from men, or drug or psychological problems, or who knows?).
Anyone else have any horror story "dating" encounters?
Unless you are very wealthy, drive a 50k car and make six figures, or are extremely good looking and look like a model, or you are rich and famous this is the kind of behavior most women project these days, I would go to say that 90% of the women are this way
I have always gotten the slow drawn out rejection... You go out have a good time, she says call me again etc...I call...oh sorry got something planned, call again a couple of days later leave a voice mail, no response, this goes on for a couple of days. You talk to her friend and friend says that said date had a real good wants to hang out again, girl finally calls again set something up, and she leaves that weekend to do something. Then I go through my cell delete phone number, facebook friendship etc....
Wow, that woman sounds mean to the core! If it makes you feel better, I had an aquantance at work whom I had lunch with in the site lunchroom a few times, and I thought we got along great...maybe we can develop a decent friendship over time? I got a new job, and I asked her to go to lunch a few months later to catch up. She told me straight out she wasn't my friend, she didn't like me, and your exact words...found me "repulsive". I was shocked, she was nice to my face for over a year while I worked there, and this is just trying to establish a friendship, woman to woman. So, it doesn't just happen when asking someone on a date, this can happen when asking someone of the same sex to lunch.
I'm sorry this woman was so mean to you, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone in people being mean to you when you try to go out of your way and be friendly.
Sorry, OP...that woman sounds really strange. A no thank you, i'm not interested would've sufficed. I don't think this tops your story but I went on a date with a guy to a local coffee shop and his dad coincidentally shows up. He starts acting weird and after I asked him a few times what was up, he told me he'd spotted his dad and asked if we could leave and go somewhere else or at least change our seats at the coffee shop to somewhere where his dad wouldn't see us. I thought that was too strange and definitely did not go out with him again. Even then, I wouldn't have told him I thought he was repulsive or anything, geez. Some people need to learn manners.
I decided to ask out this women I've chatted with and shared some laughs and dog appreciation at the dog park several times (having her email from a social group).
I ask her to a dog fundraiser event where you bring your dogs and compete in fun competitions like races and dress-ups. I say "thought you might like to hang out at this fun event, etc."
She responds in bold letters that she finds me repulsive and no way in hell would she ever hang out with me! [Um, OK, that would be a no...]
Now, I'm a good-looking, fit, albeit aging guy, who she's seen interacting pleasantly with people of all stripes (and their dogs). So why she would choose to respond in an ugly, hostile manner does not compute (she's probably just about 5 years younger). I take it as her having big issues (self-esteem or past-abuse from men, or drug or psychological problems, or who knows?).
Anyone else have any horror story "dating" encounters?
I think you can call yourself lucky that you didn't need to waste any time with this one.
What an over-reaction on her part to a simple invite! She may just be extremely full of herself. I would suspect a drug or mental issue.
I'm getting the feeling the OP was pestering the woman to hang out when she wasn't ready. I have the strong feeling the story is biased towards the side and if the woman appeared to give her side it would change everything. I'm feeling there was a little delusion involved..
I don't get that feeling.
I think he's just suprised by this one woman's reaction to a mild invitation. It doesn't sound like this is a reaction he gets all the time which is why he's wondering about it. If he was pestering her, he would have pestered other women and found this a normal occurrence. Like he implied - a simple no would have sufficed. This was a looney-tune's kind of reaction.
He doesn't come across as someone who always encounters this, and really if someone invites you to hang out together at some event, it doesn't even mean they are looking for a committed relationship.
It was pure over-reaction on her part. Something pretty weird - when someone even invites you on a real date, you don't have to tell them they are repulsive, you can just say no.
I think he's just suprised by this one woman's reaction to a mild invitation. It doesn't sound like this is a reaction he gets all the time which is why he's wondering about it. If he was pestering her, he would have pestered other women and found this a normal occurrence. Like he implied - a simple no would have sufficed. This was a looney-tune's kind of reaction.
He doesn't come across as someone who always encounters this, and really if someone invites you to hang out together at some event, it doesn't even mean they are looking for a committed relationship.
It was pure over-reaction on her part. Something pretty weird - when someone even invites you on a real date, you don't have to tell them they are repulsive, you can just say no.
Thanks Mal... the other aspect that isn't cool is that we are two middle-aged (mature) people, and I asked her to do something that was not necessarily even man/woman. Meaning, I considered asking a male friend to the event. She couldn't even respond as a human being, only as dating target (sex object I guess).
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