I gained weight, why is he still into me? (boyfriend, female, children)
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I have always been confused about this "no sex on the first date" thing.
If you don't try the goods, how do you know you want a second date?
Please don't give me the tripe "it's what's inside a person that counts" - you can be married to the nicest guy in the world, but if he can't cut the mustard, the relationships doomed.
BTW...OP...I'll share a little saying my old dad gave me about dating (he was trying to warn me)
"some people would **** the hair on the barbershop floor".
Which means, he's flirting with you because he flirts with EVERYONE. He's giving you the eye because he gives EVERYONE the eye. He wants to sleep with you because he's young and every hole's a goal.
That's an excellent point... Most 'good looking' guys I meet flirt with just about any girl hoping one will eventually go for it.
Yeah but we've know each other for 3 years now. He knows my boundaries and whether I will put out or not. But yes does flirt with every good looking lady he sees, especially when he's drunk.
I used to weigh 135-140 depending on the week, but I was athletic and worked out and had muscle, though still wasn't at an ideal weight. I haven't been at my ideal weight since High School sadly. I like that last saying I'm insecure a lot about my body, but I do know I have a nice face and a nice personality.
That's why I think we're better as friends. I'm just trying to understand him, that's all. Men are confusing.
Sadly, sometimes I think I will never find that guy. All the ones I've dated have always tried to get into my pants as soon as possible and so it makes me think that I will never find the one that will wait until I'm ready. When I was in college people would say that I just have to get through that stage since men are only after one thing and that as I get older I'll find guys who actually want a relationship and are willing to wait until I'm ready. I've been out of college for 3 years now and it seems the men haven't changed (I'm 23)
Yeah but we've know each other for 3 years now. He knows my boundaries and whether I will put out or not. But yes does flirt with every good looking lady he sees, especially when he's drunk.
Does he ever go home with any of them or at least ask them out on a date? Handsome, gooding looking guy flirting all over that doesn't leave with anyone sounds confusing.
Yeah but we've know each other for 3 years now. He knows my boundaries and whether I will put out or not. But yes does flirt with every good looking lady he sees, especially when he's drunk.
So there's this friend that I went on a few dates with almost a year ago but because we didn't want the same things(I didn't want to put out that soon, but he did), I decided that it is much better if we stayed friends instead and he said he agreed. We have the same circle of friends and we're all really close so we see each other fairly often. However, he still tries to get my attention (i.e. hug a little longer than necessary, opportunities to touch me, etc.) Also my friend said that he's still into me. I gained 20 lbs since the last time we went on a date. Why is he still into me? He's really good looking and works out a lot so I don't understand why he would be attracted to me when I'm 20 lbs heavier? I already know I am an insecure person, but still, it's hard for me to justify someone that good looking pursing someone like me at this weight.
Depends on what weight you started from, how tall you are, and how you carry the weight. If you are a fairly big/tall gal, and you carry the weight like Anna Nicole did - news for you, a lot of guys actually like a gal built like that. Maybe even most guys.
Most ladies think their most attractive weight is a lot lighter than what most men actually think.
That said, maybe Ruth is right - maybe he's a genuine good guy, and you are being so jaded you won't consider that possibility?
Which means, he's flirting with you because he flirts with EVERYONE. He's giving you the eye because he gives EVERYONE the eye. He wants to sleep with you because he's young and every hole's a goal.
Yeah but we've know each other for 3 years now. He knows my boundaries and whether I will put out or not. But yes does flirt with every good looking lady he sees, especially when he's drunk.
He likes woman. Some men sleep with woman but really don't like them..I flirted all my life- It is a pleasure and does not mean that the aim of the interaction is sex- It's normal socialization and more people should enjoy the company of the opposite sex- If couples relaxed and felt secure their would be less cheathing..
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I'm insecure a lot about my body, but I do know I have a nice face and a nice personality. 
