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Relationships are nothing but stress and most will end at some point. I shy aware from relationships for the simple fact that I know that cheating is rampant and that only a very small percentage of relationships are unconditional.
You just have to chalk up things like this as a learning experience, it's apart of life. You can't let fear dictate your current/future decisions. His ex is banging someone else, I know in his current state it probably hurts a lot but the best he can do right now is cut her off and live his life. Yeah there's tons of kitty out there but that's not the best route for him to go right now, it's best he has his support system help him get on his feet. I was in those same exact shoes about eight years ago or so, except the dude my ex cheated with had pulled out a glock on me (long story). You'll always go through things like this in life, if it's not your ex the next thing might be your job, family deaths etc.
Its all about how you respond and handle the situation, you can let it break you or you can look at it as a learning experience.
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I'm 32 years old, not 14. And just because you haven't ever seen it, doesn't mean I haven't either.
I'm guessing it has to do with your emotional maturity, the last time I saw this I was 15 years old.
You just have to chalk up things like this as a learning experience, it's apart of life. You can't let fear dictate your current/future decisions. His ex is banging someone else, I know in his current state it probably hurts a lot but the best he can do right now is cut her off and live his life. Yeah there's tons of kitty out there but that's not the best route for him to go right now, it's best he has his support system help him get on his feet. I was in those same exact shoes about eight years ago or so, except the dude my ex cheated with had pulled out a glock on me (long story). You'll always go through things like this in life, if it's not your ex the next thing might be your job, family deaths etc.
Its all about how you respond and handle the situation, you can let it break you or you can look at it as a learning experience.
I'm guessing it has to do with your emotional maturity, the last time I saw this I was 15 years old.
I guess it has to do with your emotional maturity -- because I'm not the only one in the thread who has witnessed this at an adult level. Go figure.
And again, just because you last saw it at 15 doesn't mean squat to me and my experiences.
I too am very jaded. My ex-wife left me when I was unemployed and depressed. In other words, times got tough and she bailed. Thats not what marriage is supposed to be about. It took me 3 years to start to feel normal again, but my career held me back from dating. Then in January, I met a woman who I thought was amazing. It was almost love at first sight. We dated for 3 intense months, during which I tried to be everything I wasn't in my marriage (mainly expressive and putting her first). It didn't matter. She dumped me for no reason at the end of April, 4 days after I had taken care of her for a weekend when she had some minor surgery. That has just about made me decide to give up. I'm still hurt even though it was a short relationship because I gave so much and felt like I had made so much progress in how I related to and how well I treated women. I always was polite and thoughtful, but never expressive, and I learned how to do that after my divorce. In the end, it makes no difference and I'm cynical now.
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^ Sorry to hear that Atlguy. Some people just always think of themselves first. Relationships are a selfish business, really, really just two people hanging out and mutually masturbating, getting a kick out of the emotional high of shallow romance.
'Love' is nothing more than the chemical high you feel at climax.
I too am very jaded. My ex-wife left me when I was unemployed and depressed. In other words, times got tough and she bailed. Thats not what marriage is supposed to be about. It took me 3 years to start to feel normal again, but my career held me back from dating. Then in January, I met a woman who I thought was amazing. It was almost love at first sight. We dated for 3 intense months, during which I tried to be everything I wasn't in my marriage (mainly expressive and putting her first). It didn't matter. She dumped me for no reason at the end of April, 4 days after I had taken care of her for a weekend when she had some minor surgery. That has just about made me decide to give up. I'm still hurt even though it was a short relationship because I gave so much and felt like I had made so much progress in how I related to and how well I treated women. I always was polite and thoughtful, but never expressive, and I learned how to do that after my divorce. In the end, it makes no difference and I'm cynical now.
Just like they constantly tell the women on here: you picked the 'wrong' men.
If this is potentially what happens when you put your heart into another person, I'm not sure I even want to go there with this love thing.
Marriage is so overrated along with relationships and the next person who askes me why I;m single will get chased down the street with a stick because I will be trying to take their head off
The OP's roommate shouldn't have broken up with his girlfriend. I can't blame her for trying to get over it.
If he's bothered that much by her dating another guy, he should cut off contact. He did this to himself, he needs to take the proper steps to right himself.
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to get) due to this matter because the pain of the breakup is affecting him so much.
