Do You Ever Feel Like You're The Only Single Person Around? (date, wife)
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Much more comfortable trying to connect with people in a business setting than approaching women cold.
The cold approach doesn't have to be a big deal. Start out very casually, just testing the waters, with some idle chit-chat while in line for your coffee or groceries, or waiting for the bus. If she warms to the conversation, keep it going. If it seems to go well, ask for a number or ask to buy her coffee. If it doesn't work, rinse and repeat with the next female form that crosses your path. Don't think of it as putting yourself on the line. It's just being friendly. It should be routine, like striking up a convo about sports with the cashier at the liquor store.
The cold approach doesn't have to be a big deal. Start out very casually, just testing the waters, with some idle chit-chat while in line for your coffee or groceries, or waiting for the bus. If she warms to the conversation, keep it going. If it seems to go well, ask for a number or ask to buy her coffee. If it doesn't work, rinse and repeat with the next female form that crosses your path. Don't think of it as putting yourself on the line. It's just being friendly. It should be routine, like striking up a convo about sports with the cashier at the liquor store.
Exactly, I don't see why people don't get this. It's just a regular conversation.
Definitely.Lately it's gotten to the point that it's so annoying to see happy couples outside that I have a sudden urge to throw something heavy at them.
But, of course I don't do that lol
Instead, I think "oh well, they'll probably break up next week anyway. Wouldn't wanna go through that, better be single."
Grass isn't always greener on the other side, it's just lawn paint.
This is such an important point! To read C-D, you'd think that all women in their 20's are in relationships, and half the guys are desperately looking, and feeling sidelined. "Women can get sex anytime!", wail the men. "Women have a gazillion prospects!" they protest into the internet void.
Well, no. Women are going through the same thing men are going through. It's a human problem, not a problem limited by some cruel twist of fate to just one gender.
So women get 100s of messages a day just on online dating, never the less any sort of real life attention, yet they're struggling through the same problems that men are struggling through?
So women get 100s of messages a day just on online dating, never the less any sort of real life attention, yet they're struggling through the same problems that men are struggling through?
I would bet at least a quarter of those guys just want to send her a picture of his penis.
I would bet at least a quarter of those guys just want to send her a picture of his penis.
I've seen online dating experiments done with men posing as fake women on online dating sites and they receive plenty of attention from good looking normal men with good jobs
Sure a small percentage of the guys on that site are weirdos just looking for sex, but there are plenty of decent guys looking for a girlfriend so that's nonsense
A woman, assuming she at least takes decent care of herself, can go anywhere and find a boyfriend pretty easily
I've seen online dating experiments done with men posing as fake women on online dating sites and they receive plenty of attention from good looking normal men with good jobs
Posing as fake women?
Anyway, doesn't mean they're a match.
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Sure a small percentage of the guys on that site are weirdos just looking for sex, but there are plenty of decent guys looking for a girlfriend so that's nonsense
Nonsense? You agreed with me.
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A woman, assuming she at least takes decent care of herself, can go anywhere and find a boyfriend pretty easily
...provided they have similar interests, goals, etc.
If it were that easy, they wouldn't be on the net.
...provided they have similar interests, goals, etc.
If it were that easy, they wouldn't be on the net.
This is all a bunch of bullchit anyways
I never once said that all young decent looking women are super happy and content. There are super rich people out there who commit suicide. I just think it's ridiculous to compare the dating "struggles" of non fat women to men who do actually struggle. It's the equivalent of comparing the "struggles" of an upper class family in the suburbs to those of a family living in poverty in the ghetto. It's just a little silly, don't you think?
Women's dating struggles generally amount to "I can't find a man who is perfect in every way". Men's dating struggles often amount to "I can't find any woman who is not fat/disgusting"
Yes, sometimes... I'm in my late 20's and almost everyone I know is married or in a serious relationship. I have felt a bit vulnerable/defensive at times when asked "why don't you have a girlfriend". Maybe some of these people are shocked because I have my together, have a steady/progressive career, educated, fit, attractive, etc.
I cope with it by just enjoying my freedom and making the most of my free time. Haven't had a girlfriend in my adult life, so I'm used to it.
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Originally Posted by brahmabull117
How do you guys deal with this? Do you ever feel like you're the only single person left on this planet?
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together, have a steady/progressive career, educated, fit, attractive, etc.
